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Kahlua
05-05-2010, 02:02 PM
Hi all. I'm new and just rec'd my 1st order:
Liquid Trust
PCC
Alter Ego
Essence of

Woman
(edit:) oops, forgot to mention I also got Mistress
also:
3 Samples each of

SOE/w and The Edge/w, and 1 sample of Perception.

I'm looking to attract someone at work who I think is

interested. He occassionally flirts with me, is always friendly, and has even commented how pretty I am. I'm 40,

but look like I'm in my early 30's, have a killer body, long red hair, and great smile and very friendly. I'm not

saying this to be cocky-- just that I attract men all the time, but this one is giving me mixed msgs. Sometimes he

walks right past my office without saying hello/goodbye, etc even though we are friends. Other times I catch him

checking me out (I try to dress in ways that show off my body). He's not shy but doesn't make a move either.

Perhaps b/c it's work?

So I want him to WANT to be around me, stop in my office to chat (or at least say

hi/bye). Sometimes I feel like he doesn't even see me (despite my efforts to be where I know he'll be). We aren't

usually in close proximity except for in passing. Sometimes we're both in the lunch room together, and I guess I

could always ask him to help me move some filing cabinets in my office?

So what should I start with? What are

good combinations? He's 34 and we're both Caucasian, if that helps.

chas
05-05-2010, 03:38 PM
I'm 40, but

look like I'm in my early 30's, have a killer body, long red hair, and great smile and very friendly. I'm not

saying this to be cocky-- just that I attract men all the time, but this one is giving me mixed msgs. Sometimes he

walks right past my office without saying hello/goodbye, etc even though we are friends. Other times I catch him

checking me out (I try to dress in ways that show off my body).

Phew ! I like reading these posts :) My

imagination is in overdrive.

Hi Kahlua ! have been at the 'other' end of this situation before (x3 :think: ) so

it is interesting to see it from your perspective. (Apparently if a woman looks up & smiles when you walk in an

office then it means that she would like you to ask her out :think: - I still don't get it ....)

This happened

to me & eventually the lady had the good idea to ask one of my work colleagues whether "I was ever going to ask her

out".

On another occasion this didn't happen, she just smiled alot, & so I never asked her out (regrets :(

).

I know that it is not easy & socially the norm for a woman to ask a man out but in my opinion you can't (&

shouldn't ...) rely on him picking up on your signals - which are obvious to you but not to him - otherwise your

prey may get away ... It must be frustrating for you to drop clear hints for them not to be picked up on. You have

to find a way of making it obvious to him that "you like him" - maybe speaking to one of his work colleagues about

it (best way ...). Bite the bullet girl :trout:

I know how you feel, mind you - I've found a nice waitress

where I frequently have lunch but I'm not sure how to approach her :POKE: I make ordinary conversation with her.

She is pretty & nice ....

idesign
05-05-2010, 09:22 PM
Welcome to the forum

Kahlua!

Body language is difficult at work, especially in these days of sexual harassment dangers. He may want

to make a move but is being circumspect at work. OTOH, he may just be busy and distracted. I know that when I get

busy I kind of zone out to those around me.

If he flirts with you, I think you have a leg up. Is the flirting

casual or do you think there may be an agenda behind it? I love to flirt with women, but much of the time its

innocent stuff. When its not innocent I try to make sure she knows that.

You have a pretty good lineup of

product there. It was cool of Tammy to send you so many samples. Its better to start out very light, with a single

product. You need to see the impact this stuff has, and notice the behaviors around you. I'd start out with the

SoE gels. Its very safe, and if you get around your "target" it can start the process. I would wait to use the

couplins, at least until you can get closer for a period of time, maybe lunch or coffee, and you're a little

further along in the seduction. With pheromones, you have to get close for a good 4-5 minutes to get the molecules

in his nose and brain.

If you know you'll be able to be around him, you might try a drop of AE with a 1/4 pack

of Soe. This is a small dose, and you can work up from there. Make sure to cover with a nice perfume/edt.

Wish

you the best of luck, and I hope some of the other women here will weigh in with some advice.

Definitely keep us

posted, and welcome again. :)