View Full Version : How to tell a woman is interested in You - indicators of interest
stuttgart-man
03-09-2009, 04:53 PM
Here is a summary of some IOI`s.....
(stole by onother forum :D)
Perhaps you
can still replanish this list ?....
Multiple looks. Women have much better If you catch us looking at you
more than once, it's probably becuse we're attracted and we can't help it.
You catching us looking at
all. Women look at you fast. If you catch us looking at you, this may be because we're attracted. Not always (I
get horrified when I see someone catching me looking when I'm not actually interested), but often. You guys have
muscle, but we have social muscles. WHen you catch us being less than discreet, we often mean it and/or can't help
it. (or we're just plastered drunk!)
Hair play. Women will play with her hair while near you or
talking to you. Women play with their hair all the time, so this is usually when they are either engaged talking to
you or otherwise AWARE of you.
Hovering, mild stalking Many of us walk past you more than once to get
your attention. Of course, sometimes we're just looking for something other than you (say, in a grocery store), so
occasionally this means nothing on it's own.
Blushing. We can't help but turn a little red in the
prescence of men we like. Women notice this, but men can learn to. Try to notice things like this for a eye.
Eye dilation .Dilation means getting bigger. If, when we see you, our iris get wide... or even the whole eye
area... you can be sure we want you to fall into us. We're making room for you.
http://www.pheromonetalk.com/images/smilies/smile.gif
She keeps looking at you. She can not take her
eyes of you.
Showing flesh. Lifting up our dress to show you or legs or down to show you our butts.
Yoinking on our collars, open our blouses a little. We often do this stuff even more covertly than we cover skin, so
you really have to develop the skill to see this. Also, be aware that sometimes what looks like covering skin is
actually showing OTHER skin. Keep that in mind. Look for the actual motive. When we cover our skin, we strive to
cover all our skin instead covering up some by revealing other skin.
Facing chest or face toward you.
When we want you to know we're attracted, we'll aim our chest toward you. When we're attracted, but we don't
necessarily want you to know, we might be looking away, but our feet or even our bodies (torsos) will be aimed at
you.
Smiling that makes us look bad. A real, honest to goodness smile wil often show wrinkles or other
facial flaws.
Smiling with the lower row of teeth only.
Proximity. If we stick around you, we like
you. Especially if it seems that we get closer over time. Parties, social events, offices.
Looking when when
you look at us -- eyes or head (or both). It's said by some neuroscientists that when we look down, we're
experiencing feelings. If we can't help but go into feelings around you, especially if we're a little bashful,
that's often a good sign. WE're not bashful aruond peopel we don't like or aren't attracted to.
idesign
03-11-2009, 08:11 PM
Good post S-M.
I'm not a
PUA, nor do I want to be, but I've always had good results in past with nice looking, bashful, shy girls. I seemed
to pick up on a couple of the points in your post, like a quick glance, and then looking down and avoiding eye
contact. Then a respectful approach, a little polite and humorous opening conversation on my part, and I'm
golden.
I think reading women on first contact is much easier than reading them after the fact. :) But if
you're successful, the rewards are huge.
Holmes
03-17-2009, 03:27 PM
She keeps looking at you.
She can not take her eyes of you.
I get that all the time.
;)
belgareth
03-17-2009, 03:43 PM
I get that
all the time.
;)
So do I, the problem is they are either giggling or outright laughing. Never
have understood that. Guess something is wrong with them.
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03-17-2009, 10:57 PM
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jumprunner
04-11-2009, 12:24 AM
Funny...most of the time
when I get looks from women its in the gym, and usually when Im playing racquetball, I have a cap on backwards, eye
protection glasses, nothing special but the chicks seem to take notice, for some odd reason they find racquetball
attractive. Weird.
Surfing...never get any looks at all comming in to the beach, might as well be invisible. You
would think that is the thing that attracts girls, like before I became a surfer thats pretty much what I
thought...WRONG! Girls just dont like the surfer type, I think because you are always labelled "broke", "surf bum"
Skateboarding...thats another one, girls like it and Ive gotten a lot of attention from it, even one of my friends
commented that I look good on a skateboard. Dont know why.
Anyone got an explanation to any of this?
belgareth
04-11-2009, 03:42 AM
It all depends on the girl and
her taste in men. Because of my three daughters I have had young females around the house a lot through the years
and am always amazed at what seems to attract them.
Some examples:
One girl is a wrestling groupy who hangs
out in a tattoo parlor.
Another who worked as a volunteer in a prison and ended up marrying some guy in for a
gang related attempted murder.
One who hangs out with the geeks, the German club and is dating a guy that in
deeply involved in church activities. Half of their dates are at church activities
One who's parents are
religious fanatics so she only hangs out and dates guys that are into Wicca
One who thinks guys in business
suits driving a Lexus is sexy, preferably a lawyer.
Another who is studying to become a nurse because she thinks
doctors are sexy.
Aside from those young girls, there are ones who think massive muscles are sexy, others who
think strength and agility are sexy, others who like a guy that's nearly skin and bone but well educated. I'm an
older businessman but keep in good shape and get hits from women ranging from young teen girls to other antiques
like myself.
I think that when you profess to be a skater, a surfer, a runner, or anything else you put yourself
into a niche that only attracts certain types of women. The more you tell about what you are or how you percieve
yourself, the narrower your choices in women will be.
There's a philosophy they teach in sales about fear of
loss is greater than desire to gain. That's true in attraction too. If you are willing to let go of something, are
not willing to play the game, you become more desireable as a catch. Instead of making your life into something to
attract women, make your life into something to be proud of and stop worrying about it. Women frequently find that
very attractive.
Bottom line is that I think it's the insides that actually attract a woman far more than the
outside. She will notice the outside first but then will start looking for what is beneath the skin. A man who is
mentally comfortable with himself, competent in his life, has a good sense of humor and is interesting to be around
is going to attract the most women.
One of the things I do that seems to get me the most attention is that I
refuse to take women or life, for that matter, seriously. The more seriously they take themselves, the more amused I
am by them. As a result, I've never spent more than a few weeks without a pretty lady to keep me company and that
was by my choice.
jumprunner
04-11-2009, 07:47 PM
It
all depends on the girl and her taste in men. Because of my three daughters I have had young females around the
house a lot through the years and am always amazed at what seems to attract them.
Some examples:
One girl is
a wrestling groupy who hangs out in a tattoo parlor.
Another who worked as a volunteer in a prison and ended up
marrying some guy in for a gang related attempted murder.
One who hangs out with the geeks, the German club and
is dating a guy that in deeply involved in church activities. Half of their dates are at church activities
One
who's parents are religious fanatics so she only hangs out and dates guys that are into Wicca
One who thinks
guys in business suits driving a Lexus is sexy, preferably a lawyer.
Another who is studying to become a nurse
because she thinks doctors are sexy.
Aside from those young girls, there are ones who think massive muscles are
sexy, others who think strength and agility are sexy, others who like a guy that's nearly skin and bone but well
educated. I'm an older businessman but keep in good shape and get hits from women ranging from young teen girls to
other antiques like myself.
I think that when you profess to be a skater, a surfer, a runner, or anything else
you put yourself into a niche that only attracts certain types of women. The more you tell about what you are or how
you percieve yourself, the narrower your choices in women will be.
There's a philosophy they teach in sales
about fear of loss is greater than desire to gain. That's true in attraction too. If you are willing to let go of
something, are not willing to play the game, you become more desireable as a catch. Instead of making your life into
something to attract women, make your life into something to be proud of and stop worrying about it. Women
frequently find that very attractive.
Bottom line is that I think it's the insides that actually attract a
woman far more than the outside. She will notice the outside first but then will start looking for what is beneath
the skin. A man who is mentally comfortable with himself, competent in his life, has a good sense of humor and is
interesting to be around is going to attract the most women.
One of the things I do that seems to get me the
most attention is that I refuse to take women or life, for that matter, seriously. The more seriously they take
themselves, the more amused I am by them. As a result, I've never spent more than a few weeks without a pretty lady
to keep me company and that was by my choice.
Well said.
"get hits from women ranging from
young teen girls to other antiques like myself."
Hey man, WHAT IS UP WITH THAT? That has been happening to me
too, young teenage girls trying to hit on me.
Two times now, one time I saw a group of girls at a distance and
wanted to find out how old they were, so I walked by them but then saw they were in thier early to mid teens...then
one of them says to me "Its a possibility" out loud. So Im thinking...."whats a possibility"? I just ignored them
ofcourse, dont want to be labeled a sex offender for the rest of my life.
You know Im 49 years old, granted look
a lot younger than my age but not past 35 or so....I dont get it! Young teenage girls??? Hell Im probably older than
their parents!!!
Weeeeiirrrrddddd!!! Not the first time its happened, these other young teenage girls one
time kept trying to get my attention and were going out of their way to do it, all three waving at me, one shouts
out "you're sweet", was kind of embarassing, being hit on such young kids at my age!
I dont mind talking to
them but Im just kind of wondering what they have in mind, not sure, which is the reason why I ignore them and put
them off. I would think that girls that young are too young to even think about sex or dating.
Its weird man,
maybe you can clue me in on this. Been asking around about it but noone seems to have any answers, also think
mentioning it is getting me in trouble.
belgareth
04-12-2009, 05:56 AM
Well
said.
"get hits from women ranging from young teen girls to other antiques like myself."
Hey man, WHAT IS
UP WITH THAT? That has been happening to me too, young teenage girls trying to hit on me.
Two times now, one
time I saw a group of girls at a distance and wanted to find out how old they were, so I walked by them but then saw
they were in thier early to mid teens...then one of them says to me "Its a possibility" out loud. So Im
thinking...."whats a possibility"? I just ignored them ofcourse, dont want to be labeled a sex offender for the rest
of my life.
You know Im 49 years old, granted look a lot younger than my age but not past 35 or so....I dont get
it! Young teenage girls??? Hell Im probably older than their parents!!!
Weeeeiirrrrddddd!!! Not the first
time its happened, these other young teenage girls one time kept trying to get my attention and were going out of
their way to do it, all three waving at me, one shouts out "you're sweet", was kind of embarassing, being hit on
such young kids at my age!
I dont mind talking to them but Im just kind of wondering what they have in mind, not
sure, which is the reason why I ignore them and put them off. I would think that girls that young are too young to
even think about sex or dating.
Its weird man, maybe you can clue me in on this. Been asking around about it but
noone seems to have any answers, also think mentioning it is getting me in trouble.
Before I go on, I am
not advocating seducing teenage girls and would likely shoot or otherwise maim any older guy who tried with one of
my daughters or any of the other young girls that still hang out around my house.
With three daughters and no
sons I have been exposed to teenage girls far too much for my peace of mind but have learned a few things about
them.
The first is that teenage girls are starting to become sexual a lot younger than back in the stone age
when I was a teen.
The second is that they are a lot more mentally mature than teenage boys and often regard
them as a pain in the ass, at best.
The last is that age is not all that important to many of them. Neither is
baldness or looks. Perhaps they are looking for a daddy figure or have subconciously figured out that the social
emasculation of the male is an absurdity and want somebody who is a real man. I don't know the reasons only the
results.
In any case, take it as a compliment and move on. While a cute little thing might be tempting they are
far more trouble than they ever could be worth.
jumprunner
04-12-2009, 06:36 PM
Before I go on, I am not advocating seducing teenage girls and would likely shoot or
otherwise maim any older guy who tried with one of my daughters or any of the other young girls that still hang out
around my house.
With three daughters and no sons I have been exposed to teenage girls far too much for my peace
of mind but have learned a few things about them.
The first is that teenage girls are starting to become sexual
a lot younger than back in the stone age when I was a teen.
The second is that they are a lot more mentally
mature than teenage boys and often regard them as a pain in the ass, at best.
The last is that age is not all
that important to many of them. Neither is baldness or looks. Perhaps they are looking for a daddy figure or have
subconciously figured out that the social emasculation of the male is an absurdity and want somebody who is a real
man. I don't know the reasons only the results.
In any case, take it as a compliment and move on. While a cute
little thing might be tempting they are far more trouble than they ever could be worth.
"
The
first is that teenage girls are starting to become sexual a lot younger than back in the stone age when I was a
teen. "
SHIT, MAN!!! Are you kidding???
No they are not tempting, what the hell am I going to do with a
little girl, I dont want any little girl I want a woman. I like little girls just fine BUT NOT LIKE THAT!!!! YUK!
No thats gross they dont need to become sexual at that age, somebody needs to do something about that. I never had
kids so I wouldnt mind taking a few young teenage girls out to an ice cream or something, but i sure as hell dont
want any of them comming on to me like that. It wouldnt be appreciated.
I dont think these kids are being raised
properly these days. The stone age...makes all the sense in the world to me, we should all go back to it.
belgareth
04-12-2009, 07:31 PM
"
The
first is that teenage girls are starting to become sexual a lot younger than back in the stone age when I was a
teen. "
SHIT, MAN!!! Are you kidding???
No they are not tempting, what the hell am I going to do with a
little girl, I dont want any little girl I want a woman. I like little girls just fine BUT NOT LIKE THAT!!!! YUK!
No thats gross they dont need to become sexual at that age, somebody needs to do something about that. I never had
kids so I wouldnt mind taking a few young teenage girls out to an ice cream or something, but i sure as hell dont
want any of them comming on to me like that. It wouldnt be appreciated.
I dont think these kids are being raised
properly these days. The stone age...makes all the sense in the world to me, we should all go back to
it.
There's nothing to do to change it. They are maturing faster than before so we have to deal with it.
You are right about upbringing but even the best parents can't do more than advise and teach their children. If a
kid wants sex, they are going to get sex.
Having kids around the house is fun. I like kids a lot and have made
it a point to welcome my kids' friends to hang out here. There's several in my family room right now watching a
movie and gossiping. But a prudent man, in this society, stays in another room and away from them. Or at least makes
sure there are several in the room when he is there. You'd be amazed the things they talk about now days. They've
all known me for years so rarely worry about my being around and I hear a lot of their gossip. To say they shock me
is a mild understatement. Now, they are all legally adults but that is still a kid too me and I've known most of
them since they were in elementary school. To touch one of them would be more than a little disgusting to even
comtemplate.
I'm not tempted either. Yuck is a very good word.
jumprunner
04-12-2009, 09:29 PM
There's nothing to do to change it. They are maturing faster than before so we have to
deal with it. You are right about upbringing but even the best parents can't do more than advise and teach their
children. If a kid wants sex, they are going to get sex.
Having kids around the house is fun. I like kids a lot
and have made it a point to welcome my kids' friends to hang out here. There's several in my family room right now
watching a movie and gossiping. But a prudent man, in this society, stays in another room and away from them. Or at
least makes sure there are several in the room when he is there. You'd be amazed the things they talk about now
days. They've all known me for years so rarely worry about my being around and I hear a lot of their gossip. To say
they shock me is a mild understatement. Now, they are all legally adults but that is still a kid too me and I've
known most of them since they were in elementary school. To touch one of them would be more than a little disgusting
to even comtemplate.
I'm not tempted either. Yuck is a very good word.
You know this
conversation just got me to thinking about this all over again. Its been on my mind on and off and bugging the shit
out of me.
The thing is, the 3 teenage girls I was talking about, they were trying so hard to get my attention,
constantly waving at me, ect. Then finally when I started out for the store I had to walk by them, they were all
starting at me then one of them says "you're sweet".
And I completely ignored them. I was thinking along the
lines of what you just said, a prudent man stays away from them, and that is what I was doing.
But these young
girls, trying so hard to get my attention and I just ignored them like they were nothing. I keep feeling really bad
about that, like I really did something to hurt thier feelings, and thats the last thing I wanted to do.
I just
feel really bad about doing that and I wish now I wouldnt have ignored them like that, its been on my mind alot
lately. Woundt have hurt for me to at least say hi or wave back at least, instead of hurting them like that. I just
thought I was doing the right thing, didnt know what their intentions were.
I know if their parents were aware
of it they might get pissed, but I dont ever want to hurt any young lady's feelings like that again. What the hell
does it hurt for me to at least go talk to them, I think I can be tactful enough if they do anything, by asking them
what they would want with a guy that is probably older than their parents, I think that would put things back in
prospective.
jumprunner
04-12-2009, 09:46 PM
There's nothing to do to change it. They are maturing faster than before so we have to
deal with it. You are right about upbringing but even the best parents can't do more than advise and teach their
children. If a kid wants sex, they are going to get sex.
Having kids around the house is fun. I like kids a lot
and have made it a point to welcome my kids' friends to hang out here. There's several in my family room right now
watching a movie and gossiping. But a prudent man, in this society, stays in another room and away from them. Or at
least makes sure there are several in the room when he is there. You'd be amazed the things they talk about now
days. They've all known me for years so rarely worry about my being around and I hear a lot of their gossip. To say
they shock me is a mild understatement. Now, they are all legally adults but that is still a kid too me and I've
known most of them since they were in elementary school. To touch one of them would be more than a little disgusting
to even comtemplate.
I'm not tempted either. Yuck is a very good word.
Wanna hear something really
weird? There was this little girl about a year ago, her mom owned and ran a French restaurant and always bought her
to work with her because of no babysitter. Her dad went to work in Africa and was gone for a long time, so she
started befriending me and in a way made me her dad. Never had kids before and I love kids, felt pretty good cause I
felt like I had a little girl, she was 8 years old at the time.
I came in there every weekend to see her with
her mom there, she would run up to me and jump in my arms giving me a hug, then she would sit on my lap playing with
my laptop. The weird thing here, is that when she sat on my lap, she would keep straddling my leg, and I would have
to keep picking her up and putting her back on my lap.
She kept doing that, so one day I finally told her not to
sit like that, put her back on my lap and told her to sit properly. Her mom even had to keep correcting her, telling
her to pull down her dress, cross her legs, ect. Well, being a guy I didnt want to get too far into correcting a
little girl, so I kept telling her mom to correct her when she needed correcting, just think it was more appropriate
for her mom to do that.
So, I was telling my friend about that, told him she was only 8 years old, and he was
telling me yea, in California, girls learn these things pretty quickly, and Im like "but she's only 8"! I started
feeling like I was her dad and was really getting pissed about it, started making a fuss about it with her mom and
it went on.
Finally her dad came back to town so she went back to him and I stopped seeing her, didnt want to
abandon her but was glad her dad came back which sort of freed me as a way out of it.
That really pisses me off,
and I had been mouthing off about it, little girl that age being corrupted by a bunch of prissy stupid bullshit, I
was about getting ready to fuck someone up because of it. I dont know what who is telling these little girls but I
swear to God if I see anyone doing anything like that to a little girl I am going to pound them into hamburger I
dont care who it is, shit like that really bothers me. Kids should be bought up properly, not be told things of a
sexual nature, or how to be prissy, ect. Tell you at the time I was threatening to go to her school and punch
somebody out, that shit really ticked me off. A little girl, 8 years old, learning shit like that.
Slehermairrak
07-01-2010, 02:18 AM
Hey everyone,
Irish girl here who is new to the scooter world would
like to come say hi tonight I am working until about 9/9.30 but I was going to come say hi around 9.30 and have a
drinknon-alcoholic of course since Im driving if you will still be at Brass Monkey... So Im wondering how late do
you stay there? Have I any point coming downtown at that time??
idesign
07-01-2010, 05:41 AM
I'll be at the Brass Monkey
'til around 11, then head over to the Golden Goose to pick up some eggs. Sean is not getting any better and his
wife is blaming ME! Can you imagine???
Ah! No can do. Have to clean the cat
litter pans tonight. And something stinks in the kitchen trash bin. And I have a lot more paper to fold and pack.
Busy week.
Probably be hitting the Bon Odori festival in August though. You can buy me some yakitori.
JohnDavid312
03-21-2012, 11:13 PM
Well I have not engaged yet very interestingly but I feel like more confident when she catches me looking at her or I do the same when she is looking at me.
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