View Full Version : Mones, the look and body language - what is important?
stuttgart-man
12-13-2008, 07:39 AM
You can often read in the forum that mones are only shared with about 10% for attracting
women wheres the other 90% is your appearance, the look, the body language, your dress and other factors!
Without
to want make advertising for mones, I am convienced that mones have a much more share on the flirting success!
Perhaps I overrate the mones because the signature of mones can easily changed and so you can see the difference in
behavior by other people! On the other side the look (at least the look given by nature) is only hardly (and
expensive) to change! And even the body-language is hardly to manipulate! So you can not see what would be the
difference if you could change it!
But nevertheless I believe that mones are one of the most important factors
concerning the attractiviness to women!
I have made a ranking of factors how important I guess the single
features concerning flirting:
very important: Mones and the look (given by nature)
imortant: body language, the
dress and the appearence
a litle bit important: body hight and the car you drive ;)
But I am very pry how guess
you the single factors and so I yould be glad to see other estimations.....
Infurnaz
12-13-2008, 11:23 AM
:rofl: I would have to
disagree with you on that. I think mones would be somewhere near the bottom of the list. Looks are also not at the
top of list. Instead I think body language, confidence and an outgoing sexual personality are the most important
factors in deciding how attracted a woman is to you.
I have not experienced the crazy effects that mones can
have on women yet, maybe when i see a girl throw her bra at me for no "apparent" reason ill move mones further up
the list of importance.
chicago
12-13-2008, 11:25 AM
1) Very important =
Confidence.
2) Important = Personal Hygene and style.
3) A little important =
Mones.
________
Vermont Dispensaries (http://vermont.dispensaries.org/)
IMO how you present yourself
(attitude, behavior, appearance [eg cleanliness]) beats just about anything else.
People are going to see you
and see how you behave long before they get close enought to talk to you or smell you.
Traggard
12-21-2008, 01:10 AM
The most important things for
attracting women are in my experience:
1. Confidence
2. Dominance
3. Humour
If you have those 3 you
need nothing else.
Important but not as important as the first 3:
4. Social skill.
5. Body language
(you get this for free when you have 1 and 2.
Thing that may have an affect but are not that important:
6.
Looks
7. Mones.
8. Cloths/style.
belgareth
12-21-2008, 06:37 AM
That's true to a point.
However, your social demeanor and the way you dress will have an impact on the females you attract. If you dress in
goth fashion don't expect many business women to be attracted to you, no matter how much confidence, dominance and
humor you have. If you are dressed in a suit and tie don't expect to attract many of the down on the farm types. By
the same token, acting in an overtly dominant manner will turn many women away from you.
Humor, or it's
application, is a social skill and needs to be applied appropriately. Dead baby jokes during dinner usually turn a
woman off but some may enjoy them, it all depends on the woman. Some women can't take teasing and others love it.
Another critical point is knowledge and intelligence. A high school drop out is rarely going to attract a highly
educated person and a well read individual is most likely not going to find a person attractive who's reading
material is generally found on bathroom walls.
I guess it all has to do with context and congruency. You have to
be aware of your surroundings and the mindset of the people where you are. Mones also help a lot more than you give
them credit for but you have to use mones that work with who and what you are. You may make a good first impression
wearing a lot of -none. But when they discover that you really are a shallow person who can't back up what you
broadcast in your pheromone signature, it will make you seem weird. Females are very good at detecting when you are
not what you appear to be.
Read some of the posts by Tounge. He has the right idea about how to use mones and
what needs to go with them, in my opinion.
stuttgart-man
12-21-2008, 09:56 AM
I agree with Belgareth
that if you bluff people with a mone-signatur and you are unable to continue the first impression the same people
will turn away from you!
But the first impression (even if it have (sometimes) no long influence) is made for a
big part by mones! All the things which are mentioned in this thread what is important can created by mones!
For
example:
A.none: enhances dominance and masculinity
A.nol: let seem you as more attractive
Oxitocin: creates
confidence
A.ron: raises the feeling of protection
A1: improve women s mood!
Furthermore with me, None has an
indirect effect to me! I am usually a little bit shy man, but if a woman is effected by None (that is if she take a
short body distance or even touching me, keep long eye contact, approach me and other things) this makes me
aggressive (aggressive in the sense that I take the initiative) and so she is added attracted by my REAL
aggression!
And this interaction creates a (positive) circulation, so that the first impression resulted by the
None keep alive :)
Traggard
12-21-2008, 11:33 AM
I used to be horrible with
women. Then I spent years experimenting with mones and hitting the clubs trying to increase my social skills and
confidence.
Now I am in relationship with a really great women due to a combination of increased social skill and
pure luck (no mones but my own though). So at least, if nothing else works, effort will :)
Whitehall
01-08-2009, 08:45 PM
For any particular woman, the
most important factor is her internal condition. It really isn't you, it's her. Adding 'mones help to sort them
out.
But if she is receptive or, better, proceptive, than she's either looking for good genes or a good
provider. In either case, she wants a masculine man since the gender difference makes her feel feminine.
So
what's a masculine man? She's looking for confidence, competence, and drive, in general. But with that, women
differ in their appreciation. Displays of wealth and/or social status turn some on (Capricorns and Libras
especially.) Geminis and Aquarius like verbal play and a quick, quirky wit.
To summarize, make yourself into a
man of character and strength that builds on who you really are and some woman, sooner or later will respond.
According to something I saw (I
think in Cosmopolitan magazine) some more "alpha" women prefer "beta" males, but you still need to be a *quality*
beta male. Find one of them women and let THEM support you for the rest of your life...
("Beta" here does NOT
mean "wussy!" It's more along the lines of a dependable/capable adjutant/asistant/vice president...)
gfunk
01-10-2009, 06:57 PM
I agree with Traggard, it's not
even possible to rate in an order as you have to present these qualities at once, and the hotter the girls are the
more important these factors are.
Bel's example is generally true for the average person but also you could
actually dress funny and succeed with a dressed up babe if you have game as in knowing the art of pickup.
Those with significant pickup skills (and experience) even use it to their advantage to wear some silly outfits
or items to stand out. I once wore a big silver dollar on a necklace that got quite a bit of attention from girls
while everyone else thought it was goofy. While this was at a time I didn't even have any game but at least it was
an opener and then only occasionally was I able to build on it.
I think bottom line for knowing "what's best"
is that every situation is different and if you really want to know the you need to study pickup arts like a pro so
you can learn how to act in different settings and apply the processes. Key then is getting out there and practice,
practice, practice your game into a routine.
Ultimately my view on mones significance is they allow you to have
faith in your own attraction more than without them because you know from experience that they do work so you loose
the sense of being desperate. You relax and act not being needy but have fun, play and tease them instead. But I'm
also one of those who can get pretty strong responses wearing mones not even doing anything such as on a bus or
sitting room so naturally I love putting my faith in them.:thumbsup:
chicago
01-11-2009, 03:03 AM
Gfunk: Some of my friends are
so naturals. They walk up to chicks and make-out, sometimes even sex within 30 minutes of meeting chicks. Its the
most amazing thing to watch.
________
THE HILLS FORUM (http://www.tv-gossip.com/hills/)
Well, chicago, it's possible those
"natural" friends have been already practicing on their skills for quite a while, although possibly not knowing
it.
Sometimes just plain old family upbringing and social gatherings can be an early training ground. A large
extended family can provide many early "test/training subjects." Both my grandparents and parents were big on having
both family and friend gatherings (eg card parties [bridge]), so I got to pick up on some of the general social
interaction "rules."
As I look back on it I realize that summer camps, High School, and especially college were
some of the best training opportunities I had (besides family) for "field work." If you were lucky enough to get
sent to camps or had larger schools with lots of potential targets to play with skills may have developed without
much special effort.
belgareth
01-11-2009, 03:34 PM
You
can often read in the forum that mones are only shared with about 10% for attracting women wheres the other 90% is
your appearance, the look, the body language, your dress and other factors!
Without to want make advertising for
mones, I am convienced that mones have a much more share on the flirting success!
For the longest time
I would have and have argued against your position. However, the more I read and learn, the more it seems to me that
mones are one of the main deal makers. I recently posted some articles that relate.
http://www.pherolibrary.com/forum/showthread.php?t=19411.
To take an example, the PUA. He goes to a bar
or club to pick up women. But you have to assume that a large percentage of those women are there to be picked up
anyway. If that isn't their sole intention, it certainly is one of their interests. Ok, so if she is horney, it
means she is in the fertile part of her cycle which, according to the recent articles, is going to be more
attractive to the PUA in the first place. So, he is most likely going to hit on the women who are most interested in
sex. Since he is interested in sex, the woman picks that up and decides if he is acceptable. Now all he has to
really do is not screw it up by saying the wrong things.
You hear a lot of noise about naturals and methods and
such but the deal maker/breaker is the natural attraction inherent in each person's pheromone makeup. Then, so long
as the guy can keep from being utterly stupid, he gets laid. It really is more learning to play the game correctly
and having the correct attraction or immune system than anything else.
I know I am going to get a lot of
arguement about the above statements and I am interested in hearing it. But please back it up with something
intelligent.
I'd still say the pheromones may
not be a real high percentage as you have to be close enough to have someone else pick them up, although there is
someting to be said for the "self effects" angle.
But the other thing that popped into mind is that maybe people
are basing their observations on the wrong pheromone. So much seems to be centered around androstenone, possibly due
to it's known effect with pigs (an effect that is hard to deny).
But when you start looking at this other
research, and if I understand it right, it seems it may actually be androstedienone (A-1) that is one of the primary
keys.
Methinks I may start playing around more with A-1 and see what happens. I've had my doubts about
androstenone for some time and still consider it overrated.
We shall see.
:thumbsup:
tounge
01-11-2009, 07:56 PM
For the
longest time I would have and have argued against your position. However, the more I read and learn, the more it
seems to me that mones are one of the main deal makers. I recently posted some articles that relate.
http://www.pherolibrary.com/forum/showthread.php?t=19411.
To take an example, the PUA. He goes to a bar
or club to pick up women. But you have to assume that a large percentage of those women are there to be picked up
anyway. If that isn't their sole intention, it certainly is one of their interests. Ok, so if she is horney, it
means she is in the fertile part of her cycle which, according to the recent articles, is going to be more
attractive to the PUA in the first place. So, he is most likely going to hit on the women who are most interested in
sex. Since he is interested in sex, the woman picks that up and decides if he is acceptable. Now all he has to
really do is not screw it up by saying the wrong things.
You hear a lot of noise about naturals and methods and
such but the deal maker/breaker is the natural attraction inherent in each person's pheromone makeup. Then, so long
as the guy can keep from being utterly stupid, he gets laid. It really is more learning to play the game correctly
and having the correct attraction or immune system than anything else.
I know I am going to get a lot of
arguement about the above statements and I am interested in hearing it. But please back it up with something
intelligent.
I think using your example, pheromone signature can be an initial attractor, and the
final deal sealer or breaker. Taking your scenario. The women is probably going to be hit on by a lot of guys. The
guys whose mone sig doesn't not appeal to her or turn her off are out of the running with her. Right from the
get-go. The others that have an attractive signature are now in the running. Now is when appearance, personality and
means come into play. Then when that is narrowed down to a manageable few, than I think the pheromone signature
comes back into play as the tiebreaker so to speak. I am going to continue this in another post as I want to go off
on another tangent.
belgareth
01-11-2009, 09:01 PM
I think
using your example, pheromone signature can be an initial attractor, and the final deal sealer or breaker. Taking
your scenario. The women is probably going to be hit on by a lot of guys. The guys whose mone sig doesn't not
appeal to her or turn her off are out of the running with her. Right from the get-go. The others that have an
attractive signature are now in the running. Now is when appearance, personality and means come into play. Then when
that is narrowed down to a manageable few, than I think the pheromone signature comes back into play as the
tiebreaker so to speak. I am going to continue this in another post as I want to go off on another
tangent.
I think you may be right and I am looking forward to reading your other post.
gfunk
01-12-2009, 02:24 AM
For the
longest time I would have and have argued against your position. However, the more I read and learn, the more it
seems to me that mones are one of the main deal makers. I recently posted some articles that relate.
http://www.pherolibrary.com/forum/showthread.php?t=19411.
To take an example, the PUA. He goes to a bar
or club to pick up women. But you have to assume that a large percentage of those women are there to be picked up
anyway. If that isn't their sole intention, it certainly is one of their interests. Ok, so if she is horney, it
means she is in the fertile part of her cycle which, according to the recent articles, is going to be more
attractive to the PUA in the first place. So, he is most likely going to hit on the women who are most interested in
sex. Since he is interested in sex, the woman picks that up and decides if he is acceptable. Now all he has to
really do is not screw it up by saying the wrong things.
You hear a lot of noise about naturals and methods and
such but the deal maker/breaker is the natural attraction inherent in each person's pheromone makeup. Then, so long
as the guy can keep from being utterly stupid, he gets laid. It really is more learning to play the game correctly
and having the correct attraction or immune system than anything else.
I know I am going to get a lot of
arguement about the above statements and I am interested in hearing it. But please back it up with something
intelligent.
Quite interesting indeed. and I wonder if the PUA's are into pheros, if they are they're
certainly keeping it to themselves. Come to think of it I did hear one lecturer mention it being just bogus, little
does he know was my thought. But the game that they study, rehearse and practice/perform is actually so seriously
powerful and potential by itself and them still being able to succeed terrifically without it makes sense. These
guys also groom and wash very clean too before going at it. It's probably not possible to compare their game vs the
use of synthetic pheromones.
The PUA's are mostly focusing on how to get with most desirable targets as
possible, perfect 10's etc. Targets that are usually over exposed to attention and seduction attempts and thereby
have naturally evolved a strong sense of pickyness, having a shield of protection around them, bitch shield. Picky
as in high criterias for how to be "spelled" into affair and as we know well enough now is that simply having
mones and not the game won't make much difference. You could get lucky but most often, especially with attractive
women, you'd only buy yourself a few more seconds to show what you've got, your game, then a cold shoulder if you
ain't got it.
A good example where mones doesn't seem to make much difference is for the many Asians who
doesn't produce much sweat/odor or have the ability to stand those who does. Still the number of their people
speaks for itself for a most active and productive sex life.
Another thing to consider is that when a woman is
horny as in the fertile part of her cycle, her primal instincts tells her to mate and this makes the brain produce
and release chemicals into her system that makes her ready both mentally and physically for action. In this
situation mones or not might not mean much difference if the guys has little of it and if he has plenty it will
probably heighten her arousal more effectively. I would suppose alcohol has the same effect on this process.
Just from the top of my head..:cheers:
gfunk
01-12-2009, 02:31 AM
I'd still say
the pheromones may not be a real high percentage as you have to be close enough to have someone else pick them up,
although there is someting to be said for the "self effects" angle.
But the other thing that popped into mind is
that maybe people are basing their observations on the wrong pheromone. So much seems to be centered around
androstenone, possibly due to it's known effect with pigs (an effect that is hard to deny).
But when you start
looking at this other research, and if I understand it right, it seems it may actually be androstedienone (A-1) that
is one of the primary keys.
Methinks I may start playing around more with A-1 and see what happens. I've had my
doubts about androstenone for some time and still consider it overrated.
We shall
see.
:thumbsup:
Interestingly I have recently just not bothered with adding A1 and doesn't seem to make
much difference to me other than I'm getting more and more successful lately though I can't trace this to the
avoiding A1. (That said there are probably enough A1 in C& and A314 I still use).
As for Bel's comment on it
having a significance in the closing stage I'm quite willing to agree with this. Probably especially -none (right
amount of course) and it could possibly avoid reactions of LMR (last minute rejection).:thumbsup:
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