koolking1
09-26-2007, 02:48 PM
but
which ones? (from some blogger "BetterthanIeverexpected"
22-year-old man: "How to approach older women?"
Leopardy is a 22-year-old male in Australia who likes older women. He emailed this story to me:
I've
had 2 women in my life (sexually only). Great fun, I must admit, but it tears you apart when the bad has to come up.
I like older women for their maturity and for their gorgeous features, such as lips, hips, legs, and fragrance,
mmmmmmm. I admit I find it rather hard to find the perfect older woman as they all tend to lead me on then shoot me
off which hurts like hell.
I met a woman online back in 2004. After 3 months chatting I gave her my details
and she came up here. We had sex, and then she really got abusive and threatened me with police threats etc. She
told her so-called friends about me and said what a pathetic useless peice of shit I was.
I'd like to know
how to approach older women. I just want a woman that can understand me, one that takes me for who I am and NOT
degrade me in any way.
Thank you for been so supportive and having a wonderful site. I can't even recall how
I got hold of your site, but I was amazed and immediately added it to my favourites.
Leopardy, I
encourage you to get to know the older women who attract you before you jump into bed with them. Those who are
looking for quick fun probably won't value you the way you want. It's fine to seek a match online, but if you seem
to connect, please take some time dating and becoming friends so that you know who she is and she knows you.
That might mean you don't get the instant pleasure and excitment of sex with a stranger who seems to fit
your fantasy, but if what you're looking for is a respectful relationship, that takes time to unfold and
nurture.
That doesn't answer your question about how to approach older women. I'll repeat the suggestions I
gave Sean:
1. Converse, listen (very important!), and flirt as you would with a woman of any age. Yes,
she'll recognize the signs. She might be shy about letting you see her signs, in case she fears she's misreading
yours, so keep her talking.
2. Don't rush things along -- she wants to know she interests you as a person,
not just a potential bed partner.
3. Look into her eyes a lot. Really listen and respond to what she's
saying.
4. Lean towards her to give the body signal that you're interested. Watch for these signs from her:
eye contact; leaning towards you; arms relaxed (not crossed in front of chest); playing with hair, clothing, or
jewelry.
5. After a nice, long conversation, where you feel there's a connection, you might ask her
outright: "I wonder if there's any reason I should not ask you out."
6. If she says, "I'm old enough to be
your mother," you can ask, "I really like the maturity and intelligence of older women. The question is, am I too
young to interest you?"
7. If you're really brave, carry a copy of my book, Better Than I Ever Expected:
Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty and carry it around. When she asks about the book, say something like, "I find
older women very attractive, and I hope this book will help me understand them better -- in all ways."
I'd
love to hear from readers about this topic. I know many readers come to my blog seeking information about older
women/younger men relationships, so please contribute yours.
-- Joan
which ones? (from some blogger "BetterthanIeverexpected"
22-year-old man: "How to approach older women?"
Leopardy is a 22-year-old male in Australia who likes older women. He emailed this story to me:
I've
had 2 women in my life (sexually only). Great fun, I must admit, but it tears you apart when the bad has to come up.
I like older women for their maturity and for their gorgeous features, such as lips, hips, legs, and fragrance,
mmmmmmm. I admit I find it rather hard to find the perfect older woman as they all tend to lead me on then shoot me
off which hurts like hell.
I met a woman online back in 2004. After 3 months chatting I gave her my details
and she came up here. We had sex, and then she really got abusive and threatened me with police threats etc. She
told her so-called friends about me and said what a pathetic useless peice of shit I was.
I'd like to know
how to approach older women. I just want a woman that can understand me, one that takes me for who I am and NOT
degrade me in any way.
Thank you for been so supportive and having a wonderful site. I can't even recall how
I got hold of your site, but I was amazed and immediately added it to my favourites.
Leopardy, I
encourage you to get to know the older women who attract you before you jump into bed with them. Those who are
looking for quick fun probably won't value you the way you want. It's fine to seek a match online, but if you seem
to connect, please take some time dating and becoming friends so that you know who she is and she knows you.
That might mean you don't get the instant pleasure and excitment of sex with a stranger who seems to fit
your fantasy, but if what you're looking for is a respectful relationship, that takes time to unfold and
nurture.
That doesn't answer your question about how to approach older women. I'll repeat the suggestions I
gave Sean:
1. Converse, listen (very important!), and flirt as you would with a woman of any age. Yes,
she'll recognize the signs. She might be shy about letting you see her signs, in case she fears she's misreading
yours, so keep her talking.
2. Don't rush things along -- she wants to know she interests you as a person,
not just a potential bed partner.
3. Look into her eyes a lot. Really listen and respond to what she's
saying.
4. Lean towards her to give the body signal that you're interested. Watch for these signs from her:
eye contact; leaning towards you; arms relaxed (not crossed in front of chest); playing with hair, clothing, or
jewelry.
5. After a nice, long conversation, where you feel there's a connection, you might ask her
outright: "I wonder if there's any reason I should not ask you out."
6. If she says, "I'm old enough to be
your mother," you can ask, "I really like the maturity and intelligence of older women. The question is, am I too
young to interest you?"
7. If you're really brave, carry a copy of my book, Better Than I Ever Expected:
Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty and carry it around. When she asks about the book, say something like, "I find
older women very attractive, and I hope this book will help me understand them better -- in all ways."
I'd
love to hear from readers about this topic. I know many readers come to my blog seeking information about older
women/younger men relationships, so please contribute yours.
-- Joan