View Full Version : Ethics question 2 women @ work
bolounit
07-30-2006, 11:15 PM
Im no
Don Juan or james Bond, however i am in an unusal situation .2 women @ work are interested in me.I have not said to
either of them that i am exclusive per se.Eventualy i wouldnt mind gravitating towards one or the other .Without
being a player what is apropriate to tell or not to tell them ? There in the same department as me .Help thanks .
maxo-texas
07-30-2006, 11:36 PM
I always make it clear that
I'm not exclusive but could be when I meet the right lady.
I tend to get involved with ladies that do not want
to get married for one reason or another and they are a bit more accepting than the marriage minded ones.
I sort
of have a life of slices. Days of the week.. even hours of the day. Right now I don't have a regular to go out
clubbing with. The rest all go to bed too early (9pm! and here I am up at 1-40am).
Things will be simpler with
one. But it really depends on their own needs and morality systems if this will be cool or not. I mean for all you
know, they could be dating each other and having the same dilemma about you. B)
Hey.. it could happen. :)
bolounit
07-30-2006, 11:38 PM
I always make it clear that I'm not exclusive but could be when I meet the right
lady.
I tend to get involved with ladies that do not want to get married for one reason or another and they are
a bit more accepting than the marriage minded ones. thanks how do you segue(SP?) into that
maxo-texas
07-30-2006, 11:51 PM
Fall in love with lady#1 but
don't get to the point of getting married because of religious differences. Then she gets chronic fatigue and
wants to be alone for days at a time but wants to NOT be alone when she is feeling okay. Never quite break up
because we are like 90% compatible except the religious angle.
Meet ladies #2,3,4,5? who all work out okay but
don't turn out for one reason or another (#2.. I wasn't antonio banderas who she had a crush on, #4 I wasn't as
rich as her friends yet, #5 was really on a big fling after 17 years of marriage)
#3 had kids and wanted to have
a boyfriend for non-custodial times but didn't want to screw up her kids heads after a prior step-disaster. We've
been together for years. Practice tantra, lots of cool stuff. She's the one that went to the moon (I think
because of pheromes) this weekend.
They both don't expect 100% commitment since they can't give it. I keep my
eyes open all the time for new ladies to have fun with. Right now, I need to find one that stays up after 9pm and
likes to go clubbing since our clubbing group disintegrated about 5 months ago and I miss it.
maxo-texas
07-30-2006, 11:53 PM
Oh yea...lady #2 recently
returned and now has a 2 year old and she has been a bit aggressive with me. She put me through a bit of pain there
so I'm not sure I want to get involved with her again but it's not really her fault- you can't control your
emotions in many cases.
Gegogi
07-31-2006, 12:03 AM
2 women @ work are
interested in me.I have not said to either of them that i am exclusive per se.Eventualy i wouldnt mind gravitating
towards one or the other .Without being a player what is apropriate to tell or not to tell them ? There in the same
department as me .
There's a Hawaiian proverb I learnt from an old kahuna: "no make caca where you eat."
Did I listen? Hell no and what a mess I made: tension, stress, threats and a hoe lotta of talking behind our backs.
Of course you may all be level headed adults, stealthy and work out as a threesome, but I doubt it. If the
temptation is too great, at least make a choice between the 2 before pursuing.
Dipite the possible downside work is
actually an excellent place to meet women.
I've dated women at work without any serious downside but it takes a
mutual understanding.
DCW
Gegogi
07-31-2006, 11:28 AM
Yes, the mutual understanding is
really important. However it oft goes right out the window when things go south...
But, yeah, I agree, work
is one of easiest and more convenient places to hookup. I sort of wore mine out... [work hookups, not little
willie]
platinumfox
07-31-2006, 12:04 PM
Im no Don
Juan or james Bond, however i am in an unusal situation .2 women @ work are interested in me.I have not said to
either of them that i am exclusive per se.Eventualy i wouldnt mind gravitating towards one or the other .Without
being a player what is apropriate to tell or not to tell them ? There in the same department as me .Help thanks
.I would date them both but not get attached to either one.Make sure you do everything outside the office so
if either get mad they can't throw the sexual harassment thing at you.But do this only if either are not your
sueriors.
OR
You can date one exclusively and that would make the other jealous and would chase you
more.Other women besides the two would want you too.Do they both know each of them likes you}
Gegogi
07-31-2006, 12:29 PM
Make sure you do
everything outside the office so if either get mad they can't throw the sexual harassment thing at
you.
If they decide to play that card, it doesn't matter where you do it. The relationship and
resulting hostile environment will be the issue, not the location. Afterall, most amorous activities between
coworkers take place after hours and off-site.
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