girlnextdoor
02-24-2006, 01:28 AM
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post alert*
Since it appears that the women here aren't unicorns like I previously thought, I might as well
start posting in the women's forum rather than men's. But I do hope men will read and give input here as
well.
So I mentioned in my older postings that SOE did nothing for me.
After educating myself a little I
changed my mind. See, I was expecting people to drop like flies, but the lesson I learned is that it's quite a
subtle process. Pheros don't equal DHIL or instant hypnosis. It's so subtle you don't even notice the effects
until you think about it later.
The first time I wore SOE/w I used about 10" at a speaker workshop. I didn't see
any bursts of intense friendliness so I considered it a failure. My friend purposely sat at another end of the room
and people near me weren't rushing to speak to me. I was extremely disappointed back then but looking back now I
realize it wasn't a failure. It was my own down attitude that I projected on other people.
With my newfound
wisdom I'm revising it as a semi-success. Here's why: Later at the same workshop I conversed with strangers easier
than I usually do. My newly-formed workshop team lingered and chatted longer than all the other workshop teams, and
for once I connected with the members which doesn't happen that often. At these events I usually feel like the
outsider while others bond, but this time I was more at the center than usual.
When we exchanged emails for
future workshopping sessions, as I was writing my email one guy told me we should all put down our numbers as well.
At the time I thought he was being practical, but I'm starting to wonder if it's the subtle pheros effect. I have
to admit I was a little more talkative than usual, so it could be that as well. But I never attributed any of these
incidents to the pheros as they were so subtle I didn't even think twice about it. I just thought I lucked out with
a laid back team, or that people were responding to my friendliness. I thought if the pheros worked, then these
people would've fawned all over me in an obvious way. That didn't happen.
This incident was about two weeks
back, but I'm re-evaluating it as a pheros success now. That doesn't explain why my friend went to the opposite
end of the room, but I'm not really complaining. I'm still not entirely convinced it was 100% success and intend
to try out the pheros more, but I'm thinking there may be something to this. I suppose success is how you look at
it, no? That's the strangest part. You don't know if you did the work or the pheros did.
After that I didn't
use SOE again until yesterday, half a gel pack this time. Nothing happened, but then again I didn't put out any
effort to talk to others. This solidifies the idea that pheros magnify what you put out. Be friendly,and you'll
have success. Be down, and you'll only feel more down.
Pheromones are weird. I'm still trying to get the hang
of it, but it's so much different than I expected. I will definitely up my usage frequency instead of beign so
sporadic, so I can get the feel for what works. It's not like I have a choice anyway when I dropped all this dough
on these magic potions :)
post alert*
Since it appears that the women here aren't unicorns like I previously thought, I might as well
start posting in the women's forum rather than men's. But I do hope men will read and give input here as
well.
So I mentioned in my older postings that SOE did nothing for me.
After educating myself a little I
changed my mind. See, I was expecting people to drop like flies, but the lesson I learned is that it's quite a
subtle process. Pheros don't equal DHIL or instant hypnosis. It's so subtle you don't even notice the effects
until you think about it later.
The first time I wore SOE/w I used about 10" at a speaker workshop. I didn't see
any bursts of intense friendliness so I considered it a failure. My friend purposely sat at another end of the room
and people near me weren't rushing to speak to me. I was extremely disappointed back then but looking back now I
realize it wasn't a failure. It was my own down attitude that I projected on other people.
With my newfound
wisdom I'm revising it as a semi-success. Here's why: Later at the same workshop I conversed with strangers easier
than I usually do. My newly-formed workshop team lingered and chatted longer than all the other workshop teams, and
for once I connected with the members which doesn't happen that often. At these events I usually feel like the
outsider while others bond, but this time I was more at the center than usual.
When we exchanged emails for
future workshopping sessions, as I was writing my email one guy told me we should all put down our numbers as well.
At the time I thought he was being practical, but I'm starting to wonder if it's the subtle pheros effect. I have
to admit I was a little more talkative than usual, so it could be that as well. But I never attributed any of these
incidents to the pheros as they were so subtle I didn't even think twice about it. I just thought I lucked out with
a laid back team, or that people were responding to my friendliness. I thought if the pheros worked, then these
people would've fawned all over me in an obvious way. That didn't happen.
This incident was about two weeks
back, but I'm re-evaluating it as a pheros success now. That doesn't explain why my friend went to the opposite
end of the room, but I'm not really complaining. I'm still not entirely convinced it was 100% success and intend
to try out the pheros more, but I'm thinking there may be something to this. I suppose success is how you look at
it, no? That's the strangest part. You don't know if you did the work or the pheros did.
After that I didn't
use SOE again until yesterday, half a gel pack this time. Nothing happened, but then again I didn't put out any
effort to talk to others. This solidifies the idea that pheros magnify what you put out. Be friendly,and you'll
have success. Be down, and you'll only feel more down.
Pheromones are weird. I'm still trying to get the hang
of it, but it's so much different than I expected. I will definitely up my usage frequency instead of beign so
sporadic, so I can get the feel for what works. It's not like I have a choice anyway when I dropped all this dough
on these magic potions :)