View Full Version : Stop trying to impress women?
tunnel
02-27-2005, 08:17 AM
This
morning i was doing my ironing and thinking about the events in the previous night. While doing this started to
think about the haunting question (im sure many other males do) "what am i doing wrong". I think i have finally
answered it.
Ever since the age of 12 i have been looking to attract girls:think: . And i was thinking i should
be more succesful than i am now. All this time i have been trying to impress girls. Most the things i do, the
clothes i wear, the muscles i build etc etc, is to impress girls.
I then realised that i do not try at all to
impress my friends and thats why i have so many. The people i spend less time around are the people that try to
impress me! Obviously this is the same case for girls. :frustrate
From now on im going to stop trying to
impress and start doing what i actually want to do and like. Hopefully this theory will work better for me than the
old one.
Pheromones do work i know that, but its not the full solution.
What do you players out there
think? :think:
Tunnel
satyrboy
02-27-2005, 09:25 AM
JOC, how old are you? If
you're 18 +/- a couple of years, you're ahead of the curve on fiiguring this out. If you're looking for just
action, a goal directed "impress the girls" approach is probably effective if done correctly. (I was never any good
at that, but I knew plenty of guys who were) If you actually want to date someone whose company you enjoy for more
than a few hours, having your own goals, interests and focuses will better prepare you in the long run.
That
said, there's no doubt putting some time into your appearance, manners and social skills gives you an advantage.
TRock
02-27-2005, 09:36 AM
that's awesome that you figured
that out on your own. i found the only thing that impresses girls is the attitude that your project. but the paradox
is you're not really trying to impress them. you are the prize, they have to impress you. check out these sites if
you want to speed up your learning process.
http://www.badboylifestyle.com (http://www.badboylifestyle.com/)
www.fastseduction.com (http://www.fastseduction.com/)
www.doubleyourdating.com (http://www.doubleyourdating.com/) and
www.realworldseduction.com (http://www.realworldseduction.com/)
i'm gonna borrow this from shark
since i can't find the article he wrote. the way society is set up, it gives you the perception that only
successful hard working guys that serve society's purpose become successful with women. every guy's purpose in
life is to keep the society running smoothly (cops, teachers, workers) and one day once you have served society's
purpose you will get laid. society needs worker bees, if guys realized you don't have to be a worker bee to get
laid the world would collaspe because who the hell really wants to be a worker bee.
Ever
since the age of 12 i have been looking to attract girls:think: . And i was thinking i should be more succesful than
i am now. All this time i have been trying to impress girls. Most the things i do, the clothes i wear, the muscles i
build etc etc, is to impress girls.
you sound just like me around a year ago. everything i used to do in
life was connected to girls some how. i still believe in looking good but if you invest some time in learning the
game. anything you think you do to impress girls besides learning the game is trivial.
MOBLEYC57
02-27-2005, 11:56 AM
Ever since the age
of 12 i have been looking to attract girls:think: . And i was thinking i should be more succesful than i am now. All
this time i have been trying to impress girls. Most the things i do, the clothes i wear, the muscles i build etc
etc, is to impress girls.
I then realised that i do not try at all to impress my friends and thats why i have
so many. The people i spend less time around are the people that try to impress me! Obviously this is the same case
for girls. :frustrate
From now on im going to stop trying to impress and start doing what i actually want to do
and like. Hopefully this theory will work better for me than the old one.
I'm not a player, but I THINK
that when you love YOURSELF, the clothes you wear, the muscles you build etc etc, will be/become natural.
Women
have different taste ... one may be impressed for one reason, and others may not. Learn to love yourself enough to
want to work out, to dress nice, to smell good, and once you find that special person, you will be appreciated for
it. If you're happy with YOU, others will follow, because there's something so different about the attitudes of
people that love themselves and people that is really into God. You can see the glow!
Impressing people is
overrated, and loving yourself will place you above that and all those that live that kind of life. Nice clothes,
muscles, etc. etc. will not keep a woman, but with the attitude of loving yourself ... she may leave, but she'll
have no choice but to think of you a little more than often. In every relationship, I made damn sure that I took my
hunny places (mentally) that she's never been. Must be working, 'cause I've never have a woman that didn't try
to come back. Never!
Love yourself ... you will impress most. And there's a difference in the attitude of
loving yourself, and being full of yourself. Two different animals. :sick: That's my thoughts, and I'm sticking
wit'it. Save the cows ... eat more chicken!:run:
Mobley's 2 cents.
Gegogi
02-27-2005, 12:59 PM
I say march to your own drum and
be true to yourself. Nothing else matters. If a woman is attracted to you because of an artifical act you contrived,
she ain't the "prize" nohow.
I say march to your
own drum and be true to yourself. Nothing else matters. If a woman is attracted to you because of an artifical act
you contrived, she ain't the "prize" nohow.
Bingo! No good living a lie. If you live in a way that is
"pleasing" and satisfying to yourself, it will show. And that positive aura is what will attact the "good" ones.
Living or doing things that are against your natural bent will also eventually show, and just make things worse in
the end. That's probably one reason why relationships fall apart and/or end in bitter ways. Living a lie just
weaves a more tangled web, and takes too much time and energy away from life.
Watcher
02-27-2005, 08:13 PM
There are those of us that the
pheromones do a lot more than just get attention in that case let them do the job.
It takes mental awareness
to come to some conclusions - yes you need to have an excitement factor to impress the girls but she will either be
interested or not interested i have found
Those that show some interest can be pursued those that dont well -
guess what no amoutn of cockballing, loud obnoxious behaviour will work
As for the attention whores (those
that just use guys for attention while blocking anything else) ignore them theyll either do everything in their
power to get attetnion or move onto the next guy - these girls are mostly a waste of time effort and
money
You could date a fat girl and go to the gym and drag here along = get her fit then shes youres already
?
happyman
02-28-2005, 01:34 AM
Tunnel,
Don't "try" to
impress. Just impress.
And you will do fine.
Happy
esk6969
02-28-2005, 03:38 PM
if guys realized
you don't have to be a worker bee to get laid the world would collaspe because who the hell really wants to be a
worker bee.
LOL, that is f'ing hilarious, and true....:rofl: :rofl: :rofl:
I agree with most
everything TRock said. And yes, you are correct, trying to get girls by impressing girls, is called "circular
reasoning", and is always unsuccessful, whether it's applied to girls or whatever.
Just don't take it too far
in the other direction, and pretend like you don't care at all what other people think. I think the only people
who can truly say that with honesty are ascetic bhuddists, and tibetan monks. Everyone else, needs people to
accomplish what we want in life, and so therefore, it matters at least a *little* what they think, at least for the
brief period of time we are interacting with them. But, the way to impress, not just girls, but all people, isn't
to just "be yourself", unless yourself is already that fully actualized, awesome human being you want to be. Most
of the rest of us, have some work to do.
And, if that's you, then the best way to impress people isn't by
just "being yourself", but rather by making yourself the best self you can be, and THEN "being yourself." There's
lots of nerds who live with their parents in their twenties for lack of any other options, sit around and play video
games all day, and they are probably real comfortable with themselves, (and with taking advantage of their parents),
but they don't pull any ass. You've got to make yourself into the winning image of yourself you have in your
mind, so that your attitude, and your projection, are congruous, and not in disharmony with one another. This can
best be summed up by the ingenious line by Louis and Copeland in the landmark book "How to Succeed with Women":
"Get your validation from your life, not your women."
You could date a
fat girl and go to the gym and drag here along = get her fit then shes youres already ?
I kinda tried
something like that a number of years ago. Didn't work. She "stayed fat" so to speak and I got too tired to do
anything anyway... (yes I know that comment was a bit of a joke)
brunoc
03-01-2005, 07:12 PM
I find that this is one of the
best things to be made, therefore if you make dificult to the woman,to she conquer you become a challenge
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