surfs_up
11-28-2004, 12:23 PM
There appears to be a great misconception that pheromones can make connections happen that couldn't, or shouldn't
happen without. This isn't true in my experience. Pheromones with other strong intoxicants can, temporarily, cause
some people to be disinhibited, so one or two good drinks may bring about the same loss of inhibition as 4 or 5
drinks would, without the loss of motor control or body harm from drinking too much. Socially, pheromones can help
you get to know another person better in a shoter amount of time. This can cut both ways, as you may discover that
the other person is a real jerk too.
The sad bad idea is that a pheromone will let you get the girl if you
wouldn't have gotten her anyway. You may get her for one evening if the factors are right.
The truth is
that people connect over shared experiences, these can be cultural like books you've read, movies you've seen,
life struggles like working your way through college, adventures you've lived through, ways you've been f*cked
over, people you know in common, the social and economic circumstances of your upbringing, your politics, all that
makes up who you really are. Pheromones are not capable of making you into somebody else who might fit the ideal
type of another person. Pheromones may give you a better chance to find out what you have in common.
A lot of
people take it to personally when another person doesn't warm to them however they never seem to take into account
that there might not be that much common ground, all the passionate feelings in the world are not the same thing as
common ground. I've had some women become seriously offended when I did not respond to their advances sometimes to
the point of spreading malicious rumors about me. They never rationally analysed that if I had responded we might
end up sitting in a room with nothing to say to each other.
Or you could be hanging out at a party with a
rockin' dose of pheros in the air and trapped listening to a long winded blowhard speak about a topic dear to his
heart while you're trying to scrape together a believable excuse to get away.
In a nutshell, pheromones are
not love. They aren't necessarily going to make you like another person or another person like you. They won't
make a dishonest person honest, or an immature person mature, or a manipulative person candid.
The brute fact
is that people are unconsciously drawn to other people who function at the same level of emotional development.
Evolved people hang out with evolved people, unevolved people hang out with unevolved people. Pheromones can only
acclerate the rate with which you find another person at your evolutionary level.
You may be one of those
rare types who makes a conscious decision to evolve and aren't scared of the hard work that real personal growth
involves. Whether it's intellectual or emotional growth, you get out what you put in, and there's no freebees.
Pheromones you can buy, Being you have to earn.
If you have the belief that a pheromone is a short cut to
growth you are guaranteed frustration. If you think a pheromone will suddenly make you more attractive than people
who have been honing their skills for a decade and let you cut to the front of the line, nope friend, you'll spend
your evenings at home talking to your pillow.
On the bright side, pheromones can allow you to discover hidden
treasures in other people that may be hidden away for a multitude of reasons, you may find that you really do have
something to talk about, that it wasn't necessary to be so uncomfortable and inhibited. You may share some
interesting, powerful information with another person that you never would have expected, and that can be life
changing. Pheromones can make emotional growth possible because emotional growth requires high quality
communication.
Remember, they're tools. Great craftsmen require great tools, mediocre craftsmen may turn
out better work with great tools but not the masterpieces of the person who has the greater undertanding.
happen without. This isn't true in my experience. Pheromones with other strong intoxicants can, temporarily, cause
some people to be disinhibited, so one or two good drinks may bring about the same loss of inhibition as 4 or 5
drinks would, without the loss of motor control or body harm from drinking too much. Socially, pheromones can help
you get to know another person better in a shoter amount of time. This can cut both ways, as you may discover that
the other person is a real jerk too.
The sad bad idea is that a pheromone will let you get the girl if you
wouldn't have gotten her anyway. You may get her for one evening if the factors are right.
The truth is
that people connect over shared experiences, these can be cultural like books you've read, movies you've seen,
life struggles like working your way through college, adventures you've lived through, ways you've been f*cked
over, people you know in common, the social and economic circumstances of your upbringing, your politics, all that
makes up who you really are. Pheromones are not capable of making you into somebody else who might fit the ideal
type of another person. Pheromones may give you a better chance to find out what you have in common.
A lot of
people take it to personally when another person doesn't warm to them however they never seem to take into account
that there might not be that much common ground, all the passionate feelings in the world are not the same thing as
common ground. I've had some women become seriously offended when I did not respond to their advances sometimes to
the point of spreading malicious rumors about me. They never rationally analysed that if I had responded we might
end up sitting in a room with nothing to say to each other.
Or you could be hanging out at a party with a
rockin' dose of pheros in the air and trapped listening to a long winded blowhard speak about a topic dear to his
heart while you're trying to scrape together a believable excuse to get away.
In a nutshell, pheromones are
not love. They aren't necessarily going to make you like another person or another person like you. They won't
make a dishonest person honest, or an immature person mature, or a manipulative person candid.
The brute fact
is that people are unconsciously drawn to other people who function at the same level of emotional development.
Evolved people hang out with evolved people, unevolved people hang out with unevolved people. Pheromones can only
acclerate the rate with which you find another person at your evolutionary level.
You may be one of those
rare types who makes a conscious decision to evolve and aren't scared of the hard work that real personal growth
involves. Whether it's intellectual or emotional growth, you get out what you put in, and there's no freebees.
Pheromones you can buy, Being you have to earn.
If you have the belief that a pheromone is a short cut to
growth you are guaranteed frustration. If you think a pheromone will suddenly make you more attractive than people
who have been honing their skills for a decade and let you cut to the front of the line, nope friend, you'll spend
your evenings at home talking to your pillow.
On the bright side, pheromones can allow you to discover hidden
treasures in other people that may be hidden away for a multitude of reasons, you may find that you really do have
something to talk about, that it wasn't necessary to be so uncomfortable and inhibited. You may share some
interesting, powerful information with another person that you never would have expected, and that can be life
changing. Pheromones can make emotional growth possible because emotional growth requires high quality
communication.
Remember, they're tools. Great craftsmen require great tools, mediocre craftsmen may turn
out better work with great tools but not the masterpieces of the person who has the greater undertanding.