camusflage
08-26-2004, 04:10 PM
I made a post recently in response to someone "getting boobed" saying why I don't wear NPA to work.
The last time I did, I was boobed twice by my department's admin. Since it had been some time since I'd worn NPA
all by itself, I decided to give it a whirl again, with some extremely positive results.
Last night, before
hitting the mall to do a little shopping, I put on two reasonably wet dabs of NPA from a dram vial. Less than an
open-mouthed NPA bottle, but more on my thumb than wiping it across the dropper-mouth. I went into a department
store and found a fantastic bargain on a pair of dress pants, along with picking up some new boxers. The registers
in the area were crowded, so I headed to the young mens' department where I saw an open register. As I approached
the register, the associate manning it returned. She asked how I was, I asked how she was, and used her "Good," as
an opening, it being less than a half hour to closing and thinking how I feel when I know I'm leaving
soon.
My boxers rang properly, but the pants came up $15 too high. It took ten minutes to sort it out, but
eventually it was (she was somewhat flustered through this). Afterwards, we talked for awhile. Through tone, words,
and body language, I did everything possible to convey non-threatening signals despite a high -none dosage. It
apparently worked as she asked me to hang around while she took care of another customer, after whom we talked for a
few more minutes, during which time she smoothed out her shirt and twirled her hair several times, along with giving
me spooky eye contact. As we bid our goodbyes, she said she hoped to see me next time I stop at (store name). What
struck me about the encounter was that she couldn't have been older than 21. I've *never* experienced a reaction
like that with -none alone in someone so young.
After shopping, I walked to the mall-attached TGIFridays. The
waitress was initially apathetic, but quickly became much more responsive. Whether it's the NPA or my choice of
reading material, Mary Batten's _Sexual_Strategies:_How_Females_Choose_Their_Mates _ that intrigued her, I don't
know. She ended up chatting for something like fifteen minutes before leaving to tend to other duties (the
restaurant was emptying out). During this time, again, there was a lot of eye contact, though I wasn't consciously
trying to display non-threatening signals. That's not to say I was threatening, just that I wasn't consciously
trying not to be. My natural state is something of a lone wolf-type, so solo -none needs some behavior modification
for me.
So.. The insight is that regardless of what you're wearing mone-wise, an open, friendly demeanor is
necessary. If you're not going to approach someone, instead hoping to be approached, you damn well better be as
approachable as possible.
The last time I did, I was boobed twice by my department's admin. Since it had been some time since I'd worn NPA
all by itself, I decided to give it a whirl again, with some extremely positive results.
Last night, before
hitting the mall to do a little shopping, I put on two reasonably wet dabs of NPA from a dram vial. Less than an
open-mouthed NPA bottle, but more on my thumb than wiping it across the dropper-mouth. I went into a department
store and found a fantastic bargain on a pair of dress pants, along with picking up some new boxers. The registers
in the area were crowded, so I headed to the young mens' department where I saw an open register. As I approached
the register, the associate manning it returned. She asked how I was, I asked how she was, and used her "Good," as
an opening, it being less than a half hour to closing and thinking how I feel when I know I'm leaving
soon.
My boxers rang properly, but the pants came up $15 too high. It took ten minutes to sort it out, but
eventually it was (she was somewhat flustered through this). Afterwards, we talked for awhile. Through tone, words,
and body language, I did everything possible to convey non-threatening signals despite a high -none dosage. It
apparently worked as she asked me to hang around while she took care of another customer, after whom we talked for a
few more minutes, during which time she smoothed out her shirt and twirled her hair several times, along with giving
me spooky eye contact. As we bid our goodbyes, she said she hoped to see me next time I stop at (store name). What
struck me about the encounter was that she couldn't have been older than 21. I've *never* experienced a reaction
like that with -none alone in someone so young.
After shopping, I walked to the mall-attached TGIFridays. The
waitress was initially apathetic, but quickly became much more responsive. Whether it's the NPA or my choice of
reading material, Mary Batten's _Sexual_Strategies:_How_Females_Choose_Their_Mates _ that intrigued her, I don't
know. She ended up chatting for something like fifteen minutes before leaving to tend to other duties (the
restaurant was emptying out). During this time, again, there was a lot of eye contact, though I wasn't consciously
trying to display non-threatening signals. That's not to say I was threatening, just that I wasn't consciously
trying not to be. My natural state is something of a lone wolf-type, so solo -none needs some behavior modification
for me.
So.. The insight is that regardless of what you're wearing mone-wise, an open, friendly demeanor is
necessary. If you're not going to approach someone, instead hoping to be approached, you damn well better be as
approachable as possible.