Pancho1188
08-03-2004, 09:02 AM
(originally from the "another new guy" thread, but I am cracking down on thread hijacking)
Friendly has presented
the challenge (in not so many words). Align your -mones and your body language and see what happens. In other
words, take your -none and present yourself in a strong, confident, masculine manner. Wear -nol and be the "go-to
guy" or confidante and get success in business or personal relationships.
My only experience with this was when
my ex-gf's (hard to explain, but she still wanted to be best friends and I couldn't handle that but somehow
managed to talk to her without wanting to strangle her) new bf cheated on her. This, of course, was a really weird
situation. I had a mix of -mones that I can't remember (I believe it was SOE and TE, but I remember the
possibility of using WAGG or AE in there somewhere), and I was talking to her about this situation and her decision
to stay with him because they were only going out for a month and they weren't too serious...any rationalization
she could generate. Acting in my new role as "Dominant One", I behaved completely outside of my normal self by
sternly talking to her:
*Stern, calm, collective, authoritative voice that has never come out of my mouth in my
entire life*
"Hey."
She looks down.
"Hey. Look at me."
I gently tilt her chin up and stare her directly in the
eyes.
"I don't want to ever hear this again. You don't deserve that kind of treatment. Ever. I
do not want to hear anyone treat you like that again. You are too good for that, and you should not put up with
that from anyone. Do you hear me?"
She looks down before I can even finish. She is silent.
"Is that
understood?"
She nods her head gently.
That was the strangest moment I've had in a long time. I've never
felt like such a dominant, almost fatherly force. It was quite a scene. I got my point across, and she definitely
took it to heart. I've never seen someone so submissive to my will before.
She went completely out of her way
to say goodbye to me that night (well, I was only there for the night so nobody would see me for a while...but she
was still the person so set on making sure she said goodbye).
I'm not sure what that did. I'm not sure if it
was the -mones, the alcohol, my feelings for her or the hurt feelings I still had from the past...I have no clue. I
do, however, know that it was definitely a trip.
Friendly has presented
the challenge (in not so many words). Align your -mones and your body language and see what happens. In other
words, take your -none and present yourself in a strong, confident, masculine manner. Wear -nol and be the "go-to
guy" or confidante and get success in business or personal relationships.
My only experience with this was when
my ex-gf's (hard to explain, but she still wanted to be best friends and I couldn't handle that but somehow
managed to talk to her without wanting to strangle her) new bf cheated on her. This, of course, was a really weird
situation. I had a mix of -mones that I can't remember (I believe it was SOE and TE, but I remember the
possibility of using WAGG or AE in there somewhere), and I was talking to her about this situation and her decision
to stay with him because they were only going out for a month and they weren't too serious...any rationalization
she could generate. Acting in my new role as "Dominant One", I behaved completely outside of my normal self by
sternly talking to her:
*Stern, calm, collective, authoritative voice that has never come out of my mouth in my
entire life*
"Hey."
She looks down.
"Hey. Look at me."
I gently tilt her chin up and stare her directly in the
eyes.
"I don't want to ever hear this again. You don't deserve that kind of treatment. Ever. I
do not want to hear anyone treat you like that again. You are too good for that, and you should not put up with
that from anyone. Do you hear me?"
She looks down before I can even finish. She is silent.
"Is that
understood?"
She nods her head gently.
That was the strangest moment I've had in a long time. I've never
felt like such a dominant, almost fatherly force. It was quite a scene. I got my point across, and she definitely
took it to heart. I've never seen someone so submissive to my will before.
She went completely out of her way
to say goodbye to me that night (well, I was only there for the night so nobody would see me for a while...but she
was still the person so set on making sure she said goodbye).
I'm not sure what that did. I'm not sure if it
was the -mones, the alcohol, my feelings for her or the hurt feelings I still had from the past...I have no clue. I
do, however, know that it was definitely a trip.