bettersex.com

[TRock]

is it worth it to buy the

stuff on bettersex.com or is it the same stuff you can learn from regular porno movies? anybody tried the better sex

videos out?

[burgerama1960]

First off porn is not a

good teacher for good sex techniques. Learn your partners anatomy because everyone is a little different in what

turns them on. What would be fun for you to do is try all sorts of positions with your partner it would be more fun

than watching someone else doing it. But on the other hand if you and your partner watch the video at the same time

it might turn the heat up a notch and give both of you some ideas. Of coarse this depends on how open the two of you

are at expressing wants and desires.

[camusflage]

I've only had

one lady who failed to achieve multiple orgasms, and I think that had more to do with a toy collection that

resembled a small home improvement store more than anything else, so I think I have the right to kick some input

into this conversation.

The most critical thing is to PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR PARTNER. Listen for vocalization

or breathing changes. Do you feel her tense up when you do something? Judge whether this is because she likes it or

hates it. If you don't have that kind of a connection, then ask!

TALK TO HER. Not just about what she likes

/ dislikes, but why. I know this is stolen from the whole fast seduction / nlp gig, but there is some serious truth

to finding out what it is that rings her bell, and more importantly, why.

Trust is necessary. Women need to

have some sense of trust in the man before they can "let it all go" and be free in their actions and responses. The

single hottest night of sex I've had came from getting together with someone whom I'd chatted with online for over

a year. She needed a date for a corporate function. I came to find out during the evening that she'd been celibate

for nearly three years because of a very ugly incident, but that she trusted me, and that was all it

took.

While every woman is unique, there are some generalizations that can be made. Most like the g-spot

thing, though some will be utterly unfamiliar with the sensation, whether acheived throught manual manipulation or

positioning during intercourse. Some like tapping on it, some prefer rubbing, whether in circles or side to side.

Learn it. Use it.

While almost all women love oral, some need more reassurance than others about it. Remember

that they're socially conditioned that the vagina is "dirty" or "unclean". Some are totally comfortable, some will

need reassurance. They will take your enthusiasm and gusto as their cue in almost all cases.

Amplifying

burger's input, don't even think about using standard porn as your guide. Using porn to learn about sex is like

trying to learn physics from a Roadrunner cartoon.

[Holmes]

is it worth it to buy

the stuff on bettersex.com or is it the same stuff you can learn from regular porno movies? anybody tried the better

sex videos out?

Those videos have a bad reputation.

[Sacogoo]

First off

porn is not a good teacher for good sex techniques.

Bite your tongue! You've obviously not sit

down and experienced a Rocco Siffredi tutorial, or, if you prefer old school, a Ron "The Hedgehog" Jeremy

intercourse course (pardon the pun).

camusflage writes:
<<TALK TO HER. Not just about what she likes /

dislikes, but why.>>

And now you have ruined the moment. Let's kill the passion with dialog so we can find

out what she might like or dislike or if she like oatmeal cookies with or without raisens. First of all, most

people aren't going to tell you what they truly want to do to you, them, anyone. They are typically too

embarrased, and don't want to waste time. Second of all, they just want to get laid. Either you got skills or you

don't. It's gotta be on the spot or the passion gets killed. Often, you just don't get a second chance to strut

your proverbial stuff. Most women don't want to have to tell a guy how to do something, they just want it done

(and done right).

Now, certain technique(s) that may work for one person may not work for another. It is hit

and miss in the world of sex. A crap shoot, so to speak. But if you got your primary groove down, you're usually

good to go.

<<Using porn to learn about sex is like trying to learn physics from a Roadrunner

cartoon.>>

Oh contraire, mon frere. Lit dynamite definitely blows your ass up. If you fly off a cliff on a

rocket, gravity will eventually make you splatter on the canyon floor. Women like a guy who knows what the hell he

is doing in the sack right from the start. A bad lay on film is a bad lay regardless.

Now listening to:

KMFDM's "Retro"

[DrSmellThis]

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[surfs_up]

Gentlmen have a thing for channel surfing which doesn't help sex. Women like their guys to find

a groove and stay there. None of this rapid fire positional roulette. Going down for a snack ? Stay there for ten

minutes. You aren't asked to reinvent cunnilingus. Slooooowly, patiently minute after minute while she simmers.

Alright, the main attraction, Ye Humppe... learn to roll along at, say, 2 thrusts per second for some minutes, maybe

speed it up to three per second, slow it down a tad... when you've found the just right plunge rate then you stay

there for 30 minutes or so... eye contact is important too... gaze deeply into her eyes as you squish away...