View Full Version : What do you do for women of today who are always "on guard" so to speak?
happyman
06-14-2004, 02:08 AM
I have had some success lately but not enough. It seems alot of
women are unguard to talk or get to know you. Nowadays Women are always on guard it seems. I have experienced this
at times with girls I am not even hitting on. I just say hello and they say hi but kinda put their guard up . Not
all but 3 out of 4. So what is a good approach with the other three? How do you brake the barrier there? You see
once you have broken down the barrieres she's yours. It is just breaking them down which seems very hard because
they seem on guard alot these days or already have it set in their mind they do not want to get to know anyone
outside of their circle. How do you find your way in if your having trouble with this. I had this sort of thing with
a 22 year old. I could tell she was kinda interested but her girlfriends always were guarding her and it was tough
to try and get to know her because she had her click and I was older and was like some outside guy. After a while
she lost interest. How do I rememdy this? Any suggestions?
Happy
Myself
06-14-2004, 04:38 AM
I'd suggest trying SOE, that's
exactly what it's made for :)
Sexyredhead
06-14-2004, 05:53 AM
SOE, and be patient.
Pancho1188
06-14-2004, 06:04 AM
SOE, and be
patient.
SOE, and SRH...to coach you through... ;) ;)
Gossamer_2701
06-14-2004, 06:16 AM
I know it hasn't been
tested nearly as much as SOE, which is great as well, but I've found that Chikara consistantly breaks down those
walls that women put up. They very quickly forget the 'personal space' rule (although let them move into your
space first)
They seem to feel like they 'know' you much faster. And as far as her 'girls' guarding her.....
be a man and stand your ground..... don't let them run you off so quickly. They're testing you, be kind and funny
with all of them, and take it step by step.
Good luck Happy,
Goss
Elana
06-14-2004, 06:27 AM
SOE, and a good sense of humor :)
SOE, and gun point.
:-)
Kidding, Kidding, smile it's Monday.
Elana
06-14-2004, 07:24 AM
:D That's not right! :D
Pancho1188
06-14-2004, 07:28 AM
Wow, great advice...and all
this time I was only using a knife...unfortunately, a lot of women's parents really did buy baseball bats to keep
the guys away...so baseball bat trumps knife because of its reach...
SOE, a big smile and
ca$h.
DCW
franki
06-14-2004, 09:01 AM
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Friendly1
06-14-2004, 09:09 AM
I have had some
success lately but not enough. It seems alot of women are unguard to talk or get to know you. Nowadays Women are
always on guard it seems. I have experienced this at times with girls I am not even hitting on. I just say hello and
they say hi but kinda put their guard up . Not all but 3 out of 4. Just out of curiosity, do you ever walk
up to very heavy girls who are obviously not being hit on by guys all day long and treat them the same way?
The average woman or girl is approached by men quite often. As a woman's beauty rises above average (and about half
of them are better than average, by definition), she is approached by more men. The more men who approach her, the
more selective she can afford to become. Younger women (in general) get hit on more than older women, too.
Most guys seem to prefer the 9s and 10s to the 7s and 8s, and so on.
These guys never seem to see a
correlation between their preferences and the reactions of women.
Now, do *I* seek out heavy-set women? No.
But I otherwise try not to treat them any differently from the way I treat other women. I am sure that, being a man
who appreciates beauty, I still have some unconscious rules. But when I am with heavy-set women, I laugh, joke with,
and tease them as I would a more attractive woman.
I also dance with them, and not JUST with the cute young
honeys. A friend of mine, who is a much better dancer than me, complained one night about how women are always
asking me to dance. They rarely ask him for a dance. It's hard to say what he is doing wrong, or what I am doing
right. I am in the middle of it. But he IS rather selective about his dance partners.
He doesn't talk much
with women whom he doesn't find to be very attractive, either.
Take that for what it is worth.
tounge
06-14-2004, 09:28 AM
Just out of
curiosity, do you ever walk up to very heavy girls who are obviously not being hit on by guys all day long and treat
them the same way?
The average woman or girl is approached by men quite often. As a woman's beauty rises
above average (and about half of them are better than average, by definition), she is approached by more men. The
more men who approach her, the more selective she can afford to become. Younger women (in general) get hit on more
than older women, too.
Most guys seem to prefer the 9s and 10s to the 7s and 8s, and so on.
These guys never seem to see a correlation between their preferences and the reactions of women.
Now, do
*I* seek out heavy-set women? No. But I otherwise try not to treat them any differently from the way I treat other
women. I am sure that, being a man who appreciates beauty, I still have some unconscious rules. But when I am with
heavy-set women, I laugh, joke with, and tease them as I would a more attractive woman.
I also dance with
them, and not JUST with the cute young honeys. A friend of mine, who is a much better dancer than me, complained one
night about how women are always asking me to dance. They rarely ask him for a dance. It's hard to say what he is
doing wrong, or what I am doing right. I am in the middle of it. But he IS rather selective about his dance
partners.
He doesn't talk much with women whom he doesn't find to be very attractive, either.
Take that for what it is worth.
It is worth a lot. I'm a very happy, go lucky person.
And I try to smile at everybody. I talk to any and all women who will talk to me.
But also, I will admit
that obesity is a sexual turn off to me. I can share many laughs and conversations with a heavy women, but I would
have no desire to play nekkid hopscotch with them.
If I'm at a club or a hot bar, I have no qualms about
starting a conversation with a women many men AND women would deem unattractive. My motto is "FUGLY WOMEN NEED LOVE
TOO" But the honest truth is unless she has the most amazing personalty, my pogo stick willstay in the toy shed.
I would say that 90% of the women
that hail me on the web are so called BBW women, some are BBBBW.
I must admit I like a little cushion but there
is a limit in my mind.
Some big girls are actually quite pretty and should not be disgarded in my humble
opinion.
DCW
Friendly1
06-14-2004, 11:06 AM
There is no reason to be
ashamed for being more attracted to thin, healthy-looking women than to women who, for whatever reason, don't meet
that standard in your mind. While women don't judge men in exactly the same way we judge them, they (generally)
still find slim guys with ribbed cages to be more attractive than guys who could make icebergs in the Antarctic look
diminutive.
It's hard to tell what someone is or is not doing on the basis of one post. We are not shallow
simply because we're human. Usually, we are shallow because we choose to be.
I try not to make that choice.
In any event, if you want to skim a lady off her group of friends, see if you can decipher their group dynamic.
For example, if they leave an open seat around their table, are looking around and making comments to each other
about people in the bar, they are probably open to a little companionship. If they are accepting invitations to
dance, you definitely have a shot at getting one away from the group.
I once accidentally skimmed someone I
wasn't even interested in (and she was quite attractive -- I just wasn't looking). My friends and I had started
out with two tables and I didn't realize several of them had left. Some women sat down at one of our tables. I
went back to it and sat in my chair, and then looked around. I saw Miss Mystery looking at me and I said, "Do I
know you?" She said, "No." I said, "Ah. My friends must have left this table. Sorry." So, I picked up my stuff
and switched tables.
She started talking to me a little later.
She refused to dance with everyone who
asked her, but as she and her friends were getting ready to leave, I told her she owed me a dance. She stepped out
on the floor with me.
I think a smoother man could have gone farther that night.
Or not. A lot of women
do seem to judge guys as players pretty quickly.
Elana
06-14-2004, 11:13 AM
Just out of
curiosity, do you ever walk up to very heavy girls who are obviously not being hit on by guys all day long and treat
them the same way?
The average woman or girl is approached by men quite often. As a woman's beauty rises above
average (and about half of them are better than average, by definition), she is approached by more men. The more men
who approach her, the more selective she can afford to become. Younger women (in general) get hit on more than older
women, too.
Most guys seem to prefer the 9s and 10s to the 7s and 8s, and so on.
These guys never seem to
see a correlation between their preferences and the reactions of women.
Now, do *I* seek out heavy-set women?
No. But I otherwise try not to treat them any differently from the way I treat other women. I am sure that, being a
man who appreciates beauty, I still have some unconscious rules. But when I am with heavy-set women, I laugh, joke
with, and tease them as I would a more attractive woman.
I also dance with them, and not JUST with the cute
young honeys. A friend of mine, who is a much better dancer than me, complained one night about how women are always
asking me to dance. They rarely ask him for a dance. It's hard to say what he is doing wrong, or what I am doing
right. I am in the middle of it. But he IS rather selective about his dance partners.
He doesn't talk much with
women whom he doesn't find to be very attractive, either.
Take that for what it is worth.
Very good
post!
DZorro
06-14-2004, 12:17 PM
SOE, and
SRH...to coach you through... ;) ;)
So that's what i was missing, so SRH where are you :p
DZorro,
DZorro
06-14-2004, 12:19 PM
There is no
reason to be ashamed for being more attracted to thin, healthy-looking women than to women who, for whatever reason,
don't meet that standard in your mind. While women don't judge men in exactly the same way we judge them, they
(generally) still find slim guys with ribbed cages to be more attractive than guys who could make icebergs in the
Antarctic look diminutive.
It's hard to tell what someone is or is not doing on the basis of one post. We are
not shallow simply because we're human. Usually, we are shallow because we choose to be.
I try not to make that
choice.
In any event, if you want to skim a lady off her group of friends, see if you can decipher their group
dynamic. For example, if they leave an open seat around their table, are looking around and making comments to each
other about people in the bar, they are probably open to a little companionship. If they are accepting invitations
to dance, you definitely have a shot at getting one away from the group.
I once accidentally skimmed someone I
wasn't even interested in (and she was quite attractive -- I just wasn't looking). My friends and I had started
out with two tables and I didn't realize several of them had left. Some women sat down at one of our tables. I went
back to it and sat in my chair, and then looked around. I saw Miss Mystery looking at me and I said, "Do I know
you?" She said, "No." I said, "Ah. My friends must have left this table. Sorry." So, I picked up my stuff and
switched tables.
She started talking to me a little later.
She refused to dance with everyone who asked her,
but as she and her friends were getting ready to leave, I told her she owed me a dance. She stepped out on the floor
with me.
I think a smoother man could have gone farther that night.
Or not. A lot of women do seem to judge
guys as players pretty quickly.
Wheren't you a little hard on her ??
Anyway great post.
DZorro,
JustPeachy
06-14-2004, 01:23 PM
Friendly1 makes some good
points, as usual. (reps to you)
With the dancing, it's as if every dance is a 3-minute date. First, somebody
has to ask somebody out. Then there's a conversation. And depending on that conversation, there may or may not be a
second "date". Kind of like those dating clubs that have sprung up all over the place. Like Friendly1, I dance with
just about everybody. I smile. I encourage them, especially if they are nervous. I get to see lots and lots of
different men. And I mean different! I get horndoggers, neophytes, fat guys, slim guys, icky guys, gorgeous guys,
suave and debonair guys. I can't even tell you how many times I have had female friends complain they lacked
partners, then heard male friends making the same complaints. Meanwhile, they hang around like so many victims of
circumstance. If things get off to a little slower start than I like, I do some of the asking. Even if I'm not
really in the mood. Know why? Because I found out that when the guys I really do want to dance with see me having an
apparently great time with some other guy, I become 10 times more desirable as a partner. The less desirable guys
know I'm not a snob, the more desirable guys figure they'll do better with me than the less desirable guy they saw
me with, and the guys who really only came to dance have seen that I can. There are, like, 3 guys in the entire city
that I will not dance with under any circumstances (a solid nutcase and a couple of gropers), and maybe 300 that I
have danced with before and will again. I will NOT usually trump a 20-something built like a brick outhouse blonde
with 2 left feet. But I know that going in, so it doesn't bother a lot. I don't think it's ever cost me anything
anyway.
Thing is, the more I do the little "3 minute date", the more I see how it applies to all kinds of other
social situations. I attract pretty much what I put out there. And if I'm being all judgemental and fussy, I just
don't attract friendly or warm or fun people. I guess that's kind of a rehash of what Friendly already said, but I
think I'm pretty much seeing the same things he is.
Friendly1
06-14-2004, 01:38 PM
Wheren't you a
little hard on her ??
Anyway great post.
DZorro, Telling her she owed me a dance was being "a little
hard on her"? No, I don't think so at all. I had seen her turn other guys down. She knew I knew she was saying
"No". I gave her the same opportunity to shoot me down the other guys had given her.
It's not like I dragged
her kicking and screaming out onto the dance floor.
This comes back to the body language thing, I guess. When
she went out of her way to strike up a conversation with me, I knew she was a bit intrigued. "Why didn't this guy
come on to me?"
She touched my arm a couple of times. It's not that she brushed past me. I mean that she
reached out and deliberately made contact. I didn't do anything to encourage her or pursue her.
I found out
her name, what neighborhood she lives in, the fact she is a Masters student at a local private university, blah,
blah, blah.
I did almost exactly what she wanted.
She was a pretty good dancer, too. Not great, but a
good follower. Or maybe she just wanted to follow me. I'll never know. I never ran into her again. I really wasn't
trying to make a connection. But I decided that, since she had expressed some interest in my company, the least I
could do was see if I could get her out on the dance floor. I risked nothing but being turned down.
I mean,
she had her coat and her purse in her hands when I told her to go dancing with me. Her friends all smiled and urged
her to do it.
In the end, she probably thought I was a dud because I didn't ask for her number or something.
But if I asked every woman I dance with for a phone number, I'd end up with a huge collection of phone numbers. So
what? When I want to do something with someone, I set it up. She knows today whether she is free on Saturday or not.
If I wait 2-3 days, chances are she won't be. Chances are she won't remember who I am if I call and say, "Hey,
I'm the guy you danced with the other night."
Duh! That REALLY helps.
If a woman wants to spend time
with me, she'll generally let me know. I just have to be open to her suggestions.
Sometimes, I pass on the
opportunity. I don't think that makes me any more hard on her than her passing on me is hard on me.
Telling her she owed me a dance
was being "a little hard on her"? No, I don't think so at all. what you say is as important as how you
say something :)
Chances are she won't remember who I am if I call and say, "Hey, I'm the guy you
danced with the other night."
Duh! That REALLY helps.
exactly!! It makes both feel daft when you
canĀ“t remember the other person :D
The problem is they don't play slow
songs like they did back in the day :-).
Thats was a great opportunity for some small talk and you can gage how
she reacts when you try and put your hand on her butt...he..he :-)
Today everything is loud and fast and
half the time you can't hear what each other is saying. This results in you forgetting her name, which pisses her
off at the end of the night.
Right now I have a single number in my cell with 2 different names, if I ask for
the wrong name I'm dead.
The complexities of life....the complexities of life
DCW
Myself
06-14-2004, 02:35 PM
Right now I have a
single number in my cell with 2 different names, if I ask for the wrong name I'm dead.
The complexities of
life....the complexities of lifeOwww man. You're screwed :D
Friendly1
06-14-2004, 03:02 PM
The problem is they
don't play slow songs like they did back in the day :-).
If you're into Latin dancing, learn the
Bachata. The music is sweet and cute and the couples can dance REALLY close. I am still getting the basic down
(it's completely backwards to Salsa). It is considered a dirty dance in some areas and you can see why when the
guys go down on their partners (I don't mean ALL the way down). It's just a really sensual dance, when done that
way. But the music is not nearly as loud as other kinds of music and you can usually have a halfway decent
conversation.
Not always, but usually.
Some clubs play Bachata more than others.
I know the Bachata (one, two, three
hop) and Meringue (bad spelling) I agree the problem is you got to wait until the Latin DJ gets around to it, until
then you have to wait on the side lines praticing your salsa steps because your too chicken to make a move on Miss
Venezuela who grew up dancing the stuff.
DCW
Friendly1
06-14-2004, 08:07 PM
I see you are in Houston. So
you know there are a ton of clubs around here. I will be leaving soon, unfortunately. I have to take a job in
another state. But have you visited Salsaweb.com? I think they or another resource someone pointed me to list a
lot of clubs with the kind of music they play.
I have occasionally thought about doing a sort of club tour,
picking a theme and going to see how the clubs handle it. I won't have time for that now.
If I get the job I
think I will soon be offered (that I would like to have offered to me), I won't be living in a big Salsa scene any
more. I may have to learn the two-step and the polka (ick). Maybe I'll take up Swing dancing.
I can get
through a basic foxtrot but my waltz is rough, so I don't want to get into ballroom dancing. Not really my crowd
anyway. A friend asks me to go with her to an occasional ballroom event, and I do but I don't really have much fun
at them.
JustPeachy
06-14-2004, 08:30 PM
I know the Bachata
(one, two, three hop) and Meringue (bad spelling) I agree the problem is you got to wait until the Latin DJ gets
around to it, until then you have to wait on the side lines praticing your salsa steps because your too chicken to
make a move on Miss Venezuela who grew up dancing the stuff.
DCW
That's pretty funny. Bachata
(done right) isn't all that close, and gropers don't usually score any better there than anyplace else - which is
why a lot of women won't even dance it with anyone they don't know (I don't any more, even though I like the
dance). And the salseros usually hate Merengue because it wears you out and makes you sweat without even getting any
good moves in. The only way is to go say hello to "Miss Venezuela', who is often as not is Asian or Black or Anglo,
and be prepared for the good, the bad, and the indifferent. That's how you learn. Be bold. Be brave. Be prepared to
look like a flaming jerk. We all did. :D
I actually went to a Latin club in Houston that was really very
Tejano. People there were actually dancing Two Step to Salsa music. Pretty freaky. But it wasn't Cristal, which I
understand is where the real salseros hang. I can't even remember the name of that club I went to now. I was in
town for a ballroom thing. I did find a guy from Mexico City and a South American guy who could dance Salsa, though,
so it was o.k. Unlike Friendly, I switch clothes, shift gears, and swing both ways. I find different things to enjoy
in each style and with each crowd. But any of them is a GREAT opportunity to play with -mones, because you're going
to get at least a solid 3 minutes right up close with as many people (spell that l.a.b. r.a.t.s ; ) as you can fit
in for the evening! If it happens that the dancing sucks, you can spend the time observing behaviors instead.
happyman
06-14-2004, 09:32 PM
Yeah SOE really helps. I even
feel more confident with it on. Sometimes with SOE on there aint a women I can't snag (in my mind I'm thinking you
know).
But I got the scented SOE and get this. For all it's worth.....I really can't smell it. I mean slightly
when it's rolled onto my finger but then that's pretty much it. I can sense there is something there though but
not so much a smell. So tell me please, others say it definately has a smell of some sort. I got the roll-on scented
SOE. Tell what it smells like so I know. What is it's signature and what does it say about itself in terms of vibe
or what does it emit in terms of aroma?
Remember I have the scented roll-on SOE. Thanks so much for your
reply.
Ian
Friendly1
06-14-2004, 09:54 PM
That's
pretty funny. Bachata (done right) isn't all that close, and gropers don't usually score any better there than
anyplace else - which is why a lot of women won't even dance it with anyone they don't know (I don't any more,
even though I like the dance). I think most of the couples I see doing the sexier Bachata are "couples" in
every sense of the word. I don't pay them much attention, so I cannot be sure.
And the
salseros usually hate Merengue because it wears you out and makes you sweat without even getting any good moves
in. Well, I love Merengue. I think that, when done right, it is a VERY sexy dance. Most people don't do it
right. I have picked up some moves from Salsa and from watching the sexier Merengue dancers that the ladies I dance
with enjoy.
The only way is to go say hello to "Miss Venezuela', who is often as not is
Asian or Black or Anglo, and be prepared for the good, the bad, and the indifferent. That's how you learn. Be bold.
Be brave. Be prepared to look like a flaming jerk. We all did. :D I do tend to watch the women dance
before I ask them. I am tired of asking, "Do you dance Salsa?", hearing "Yes!", and then getting stuck with some
sort of side-to-side swish/wiggle.
I actually went to a Latin club in Houston that was
really very Tejano. People there were actually dancing Two Step to Salsa music. Pretty freaky. But it wasn't
Cristal, which I understand is where the real salseros hang. All the "real" clubs are after-midnight clubs.
Cristal had a good reputation once, but now it is regarded as a place to get into fights (rightly or wrongly). My
friends won't go there.
A neat club that I cannot get my friends into is The Palace. They only operate on
Friday and Saturday nights. Occasionally, I can bring a party into Tropicana Nite Club. I think the reason my
friends don't like The Palace is that the staff barely speaks English. Great floors, wonderful sound system. I
almost fell in love with one of the servers, Yahaina. She doesn't speak a word of English. Don't know if she is
there any more.
I've been to Hush but it was pretty much a bust. The only music they will play has to have a
Euro-Disco beat (doesn't matter if it's supposed to be Latin or Hip Hop -- it's all THUMP, THUMP, THUMP and most
of the people don't know how to dance anyway).
All the kids hang out at Metropolis and a few other "under 21"
clubs. Some people in their 20s also go to places like that. Some of the more well-known clubs are schizophrenic.
They are Latin one night, Hip Hop another night, Retro 80s another (and what is so "Retro" about the 80s anyway? --
the music wasn't very danceable anyway).
Yahoo! Groups has a Houston Salsa mailing list with 2900
subscribers. You can usually keep up with where all the bands play there.
One of the more popular bands here
is Mary's Band, led by Mary Frometa. She is an absolute goddess. Men fall down and worship her feet. I swear, I've
seen some of the coolest guys just drool over her (and she, like a typical SuperBabe, just ignores them). She has
her own Web site and she does some TV work.
But the band is fantastic. They always bring in a huge crowd. Some
people I only see on nights Mary's Band plays a certain venue. They also perform at Elvia's Cantina every
Friday.
I've actually had a few minor pheromone hits with Mary (instant eye contact), but always in passing
(she stays close to the band, and the guys tend to keep other guys away from her). My friends used to joke about
fixing me up with her. "You'd have beautiful babies with that one."
ANYONE would have beautiful babies with
her. But she seems to be dead set on building her career. The man who gets her will be special indeed, and God help
him if he forgets WHY and HOW he got her.
Watcher
06-14-2004, 10:28 PM
Healthy people both male and
female attract more sexual attention - these slim attractive woemn have better coping mechanisms for dealing with
the constant sexual attention where a larger woman who is overweight might not get to much attention and revels
when she does - the slimmer on guard ones has guys hitting on her often.
Similar to me (a guy) is a gym junky
so to speak and well buffed etc - i get women coming onto me all the time - even without pheromones which just up
the anti - but say without pheromones they hover - i make it a habit of only responding to the ones that communicate
with me (narrows the field down a fair bit)
Its all about mutual attraction if you aint attractive to women
sit down and try to work out why *biologocial looks help - ie work out and do some exercise* if you are fat and a
couch potato women wont find you as attractive - get a job - get some money - try to dress good - all these helps +
get some clown shoes as a ice breaker.
JustPeachy
06-14-2004, 11:26 PM
Before I come to Houston next
time, I'll have to get some current recommendations from you. I was planning to go down again this summer, but I'm
not sure yet if that will work out or not.
I do understand the whole clique thing. But you know, the more I
learn and the more I watch, the more I see that most of those guys a one trick ponies. And the vast majority of them
can't even dance with anyone outside of their own small circle. I don't mean "won't". I mean "can't". That's
what happens to them when they only dance with each other. And you can only see the same guy do the same triple spin
so many times, only see some girl flash all her cookies in a neck drop so many times before it becomes almost
boring, of not downright sleazy. That stuff is all fun, but then when you get to see the old masters in their 70's
and 80's, and they're still way hot and have it ALL goin' on without resorting to cheesy tricks and stunt moves?
THAT is the total shiznatz, right there. And THOSE guys, the ones who started it all, are the very first ones to
tell you right to your face there's no wrong way. Just get out there and shake your bootay. (It's also a setting
where it's extremely easy to see where the alphas are. And I do not believe they are simply born that way. Not one
of them. They work hard at it.)
happyman
06-15-2004, 02:28 AM
Ok Again.....anyone?
I got
the scented SOE Roll-on and get this. For all it's worth.....I really can't smell it. I mean slightly when it's
rolled onto my finger but then that's pretty much it. I can sense there is something there though but not so much a
smell. So tell me please, others say it definately has a smell of some sort. I got the roll-on scented SOE. Tell
what it smells like so I know. What is it's signature and what does it say about itself in terms of vibe or what
does it emit in terms of aroma?
Remember I have the scented roll-on SOE. Thanks so much for your
reply.
Happy
DZorro
06-15-2004, 04:21 AM
Ok
Again.....anyone?
I got the scented SOE Roll-on and get this. For all it's worth.....I really can't smell it. I
mean slightly when it's rolled onto my finger but then that's pretty much it. I can sense there is something there
though but not so much a smell. So tell me please, others say it definately has a smell of some sort. I got the
roll-on scented SOE. Tell what it smells like so I know. What is it's signature and what does it say about itself
in terms of vibe or what does it emit in terms of aroma?
Remember I have the scented roll-on SOE. Thanks so much
for your reply.
Happy
Actually the roll on soe has a very strong scent. if applied to much would give
anyone a headacke including yourself.
Try using 1 or 2 swipes across your neck and you should be fine.
Anymore
then that, people will either act really funny, like their drunk or something, or some people will instandly get
headackes. At least that's the reaction i get when wearing to much.
DZorro,
Friendly1
06-15-2004, 09:37 AM
Ok
Again.....anyone?
I got the scented SOE Roll-on and get this. For all it's worth.....I really can't smell it. I
mean slightly when it's rolled onto my finger but then that's pretty much it. I can sense there is something there
though but not so much a smell. So tell me please, others say it definately has a smell of some sort. I got the
roll-on scented SOE. Tell what it smells like so I know. What is it's signature and what does it say about itself
in terms of vibe or what does it emit in terms of aroma?
Remember I have the scented roll-on SOE. Thanks so much
for your reply.
Happy
You may have a poor sense of smell. I do. I can tolerate some fumes that make
other people gag.
And some people are more sensitive to certain odors than to others. You may be one of those
selective olfactory people.
Friendly1
06-15-2004, 09:45 AM
Before I come
to Houston next time, I'll have to get some current recommendations from you. I was planning to go down again this
summer, but I'm not sure yet if that will work out or not.
Well, I'll stay as current as I can, but I
am leaving at the end of the month.
I do understand the whole clique thing. But you know, the
more I learn and the more I watch, the more I see that most of those guys a one trick ponies. And the vast majority
of them can't even dance with anyone outside of their own small circle. I don't mean "won't". I mean "can't".
That's what happens to them when they only dance with each other. And you can only see the same guy do the same
triple spin so many times, only see some girl flash all her cookies in a neck drop so many times before it becomes
almost boring, of not downright sleazy.
I know what you mean. I dance with people from different groups,
not just my own. But we have a pretty large crowd, too. Sometimes, there are 20 or 30 of us. We've been known to
make or break a club's night. (Sometimes there are only 5 or 6.)
But it's hard to remember all those slick
moves. You don't often get the chance to use them with strangers. At least, it's not a good idea to try until
you get to know a person's skill and confidence. So, it's easy to become a one-trick pony. I try to freshen my
moves every now and then but I still often have to go easy either becaue it's too crowded or I am dancing with
someone who is less experienced than I am.
Sometimes, I wonder if the pheromones aren't making things more
difficult for me. Because the club environment is so packed and intense, I usually put on strong doses.
Invariably, when I get out onto an empty dance floor, the space fills up within 20-30 seconds. But if I sit and
watch, the crowd thins out.
Now, a lot of that is due to people moving in similar cycles. You dance, you rest,
you dance, you rest. And a lot of it is due to people enjoying the same kinds of songs. But just when I think the
crowd is tired and I can get some space, they all come staggering back out again. Very frustrating.
And there
are all the collisions with people dancing right next to you. A lot of guys are just completely inconsiderate, and
they throw their partners into the people around them because they are trying to show off. But sometimes the women
rub up against me in the back. It happens too consistently to be an accident. They just come and rub their backs
against mine while we're dancing with different people.
I think it's the pheromones. They bring out the
aggressive nature in people, and in a hot, sweaty club, there are a LOT of natural pheromones in the air.
I think most of the
couples I see doing the sexier Bachata are "couples" in every sense of the word. I don't pay them much attention,
so I cannot be sure.
Well, I love Merengue. I think that, when done right, it is a VERY sexy dance. Most
people don't do it right. I have picked up some moves from Salsa and from watching the sexier Merengue dancers that
the ladies I dance with enjoy.
I do tend to watch the women dance before I ask them. I am tired of
asking, "Do you dance Salsa?", hearing "Yes!", and then getting stuck with some sort of side-to-side
swish/wiggle.
All the "real" clubs are after-midnight clubs. Cristal had a good reputation once, but now
it is regarded as a place to get into fights (rightly or wrongly). My friends won't go there.
A neat club
that I cannot get my friends into is The Palace. They only operate on Friday and Saturday nights. Occasionally, I
can bring a party into Tropicana Nite Club. I think the reason my friends don't like The Palace is that the staff
barely speaks English. Great floors, wonderful sound system. I almost fell in love with one of the servers, Yahaina.
She doesn't speak a word of English. Don't know if she is there any more.
I've been to Hush but it was
pretty much a bust. The only music they will play has to have a Euro-Disco beat (doesn't matter if it's supposed
to be Latin or Hip Hop -- it's all THUMP, THUMP, THUMP and most of the people don't know how to dance anyway).
All the kids hang out at Metropolis and a few other "under 21" clubs. Some people in their 20s also go to
places like that. Some of the more well-known clubs are schizophrenic. They are Latin one night, Hip Hop another
night, Retro 80s another (and what is so "Retro" about the 80s anyway? -- the music wasn't very danceable
anyway).
Yahoo! Groups has a Houston Salsa mailing list with 2900 subscribers. You can usually keep up
with where all the bands play there.
One of the more popular bands here is Mary's Band, led by Mary
Frometa. She is an absolute goddess. Men fall down and worship her feet. I swear, I've seen some of the coolest
guys just drool over her (and she, like a typical SuperBabe, just ignores them). She has her own Web site and she
does some TV work.
But the band is fantastic. They always bring in a huge crowd. Some people I only see on
nights Mary's Band plays a certain venue. They also perform at Elvia's Cantina every Friday.
I've
actually had a few minor pheromone hits with Mary (instant eye contact), but always in passing (she stays close to
the band, and the guys tend to keep other guys away from her). My friends used to joke about fixing me up with her.
"You'd have beautiful babies with that one."
ANYONE would have beautiful babies with her. But she seems
to be dead set on building her career. The man who gets her will be special indeed, and God help him if he forgets
WHY and HOW he got her.
I know all those places. Crystal I believe is closed now.
Hush is
pretty close to my house I might venture there this Thurs.
The Skybar is the Hottest spot on Thurs, got a major
HIT there a few weeks back using the "Panty Dropper" mix.
I was dating a Colombian girl back in Toronto so I
took lessons to keep up.
I had no problem dancing with the girls in my class but thats to be expected.
No
worries I was kidding earlier actually i'm not that bad.
DCW
camusflage
06-15-2004, 02:34 PM
I won't be
living in a big Salsa scene any more. I may have to learn the two-step and the polka (ick). Maybe I'll take up
Swing dancing.Ya know, even in Ohio, we've got some cool Salsa stuff going on.. In my area, except on
Monday and Tuesday, I can think of SOMEPLACE to go and dance Salsa. A lot more than Swing or Ballroom to be sure!
camusflage
06-15-2004, 02:39 PM
Well, I love
Merengue. I think that, when done right, it is a VERY sexy dance.If the lady so wills it, indeed it can be.
I like Merengue because it's so much easier to just "wing it" than in Salsa, or any other dance, that is much more
structured. As long as you get back to stepping left on 1, it's all good. Some of the really fast ones can be a bit
of a chore to keep up with though!
JustPeachy
06-15-2004, 02:43 PM
I know all those
places. Crystal I believe is closed now.
Hush is pretty close to my house I might venture there this Thurs.
The
Skybar is the Hottest spot on Thurs, got a major HIT there a few weeks back using the "Panty Dropper" mix.
I was
dating a Colombian girl back in Toronto so I took lessons to keep up.
I had no problem dancing with the girls in my
class but thats to be expected.
No worries I was kidding earlier actually i'm not that bad.
DCW
In some ways, dancing with a lot of different people is probably easier for women. We always have to go with
whatever a guy knows anyway, so it's pretty necessary to pick up a lot of different styles.
Backrubbing and
butt bumping are favored sports amongst some of the regulars around here. I'd imagine that's a pretty universal
style. I've seen Peruvians do it in crowds of 50 or more. You have to be a real people person for that game. ;)
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